p. s. I'll probably be leaving him soon because I've begun to realize his physical abuse is actually abuse. He thinks im bitchy so thats why he says he chokes me and hits me:/ I sound so pathetic but this is what my lifes come to.. asking weird questions on this site because I'm currently stuck with him.
Most Helpful Guy
Yeah, kind of.
If you do decide to stay with him keep an eye on things and be careful.
Also, you and him need to talk about laying some ground rules...
May I ask why you got together with him to start with?
Perhaps it's possible for you to find out what you like and find someone who can provide those things in a way that's actually healthy?
(I'm kind of assuming here that you like a dominant person that might discipline you at times and take control given that you're still with this guy that's beating you, please do correct me if I'm wrong)
Most Helpful Girl
He probably has past traumas of some sort usually maybe of him as child. Probably doesn't like weak or vulnerable individuals. By the way your describing him he's already highly aggresive so at this point you can't help him if he's already being physically abusive. Just leave him before your too damaged and continue the cycle. Happy your asking for help even if it is through this site :) its helped me in the past. Best wishes to you