Looks like it is going to be a separation for now. We will likely seek counseling.
Find a good pro-marriage counsellor. Not many are. Get some self-help books about marriage problems. Check out Terrence Real books. Good luck
and... did you see it coming or were you shocked out of your mind?
I was totally shocked... she really wants a separation... I knew there were problems; but I didn't think they were that bad.
well i think for now you should talk to her and really listen to what she thinks are your problemsand try to see if you can convince her to solve them 1st with counselingbut if you really want her to change her mind about divorce then you have to be commited to understanding why she even asked for a divorce 1st and commited to changing... and solving the problemscause if not then best to divorce
why is always a "condition" that makes it the woman who is wrong. how about the Times that men are at fault and refuse to take responsibility for thier actions and clean up the mess that is made from thier actions and choices that affect others around them.
@muzixiz4me In this case, she got weight loss surgery... got her self confidence and basically is a totally changed person. I've always been an introvert from day one.. she has an Alpha personality who always wanted to take control... she admits fault at this. It is now down to a separation to "teach me to be able to take care of myself"
Lol they always steer it round to being your fault. What an attitude eh? I've looked in the mirror and decided your not worthy of me any more. That's not love mate. The vows say in sickness and in health, foresaking all others till death do you part. Some people just get married coz they think its a box to tick in life and to keep a wholesome public image, it's pathetic. Better to be alone than pretend. She did you a favour of she was that much of a phoney
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Yeah... I bet that's true as hell.
we are both open to counseling,... or so she says.. it is hard to determine if she is telling me what I want to hear or what her true feelings are.
I would take her at her word and go to counseling. It may not be too late to turn things around.~JSmith