We broke up a year ago. I'm in a new relationship for 8 months now, I live with my boyfriend and I love him so much. I do not have any feelings or desires to be with my ex again. My current boyfriend is the complete opposite of my ex and it's perfect.
My ex moved to a new city, contacted me on and off asking for nudes and stuff (which I didn't indulge him with). Then a week ago he send me a photo (by mistake because it was just a flash in a dark background) and then he blocked me (although I didn't even have his number saved on my phone). Confused, I checked his fb and saw he was engaged.
For some reason it's still bothering me to no end. This man that use women, who treated me like shit, who told me he would never marry anyone, who I loved with my whole heart was getting married to another 20 year old (I'm 21) who he has only known for about 5 months (we were together 2 years and he cheated relentlessly).
I am over him. I wouldn't go back to him if I was given the chance to. So why does this bother me?
Most Helpful Guy
Couple things. You can't judge too much. He may be engaged after a short time, but you were with a new guy in the span of 2 months of your breakup and have already moved in with the guy. So take a step back in that regard. It's irrelevant to the story anyways.
My guess as to why this is bothering you. You never mourned the relationship. You loved the guy for 2 years and you expect to be entirely over those emotions in 2 months, because you have a new guy? That's not how it works. That's not to say you didn't do the right thing or that you shouldn't have made the decisions you have. I'm trying to say that you should give yourself a bit of a break in regards to your emotions. It's okay for you to feel the knee jerk reaction to a guy you dated for 2 years, getting engaged fairly shortly after you two broke up. Allow yourself to feel those emotions and fully experience them so that you can mourn and move on from them. You don't need to contact your ex for this. You just need to let yourself experience it first so that you can get it out.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't think you have any lingering feelings for your ex, I think you're just trying to figure what you did wrong and even thinking "what does she have that I don't?" But you shouldn't dwell on it , like you said : it's been a year. So maybe he's changed his mind about marriage? Who knows! And who cares! lol good luck :)1