So its pretty crazy but my boyfriend of 1 year and three months randomly broke up with me when I went over to his house one day, the night before we got in a really heated argument and started bickering, we went in his car and we both were hysterically crying and he then told me that night that he will see how things go and that wed still stay together, even still hugged me and stuff. but then the NEXT day, it got really emotional & I asked him if he wanted to break up, and he cried to me, "yeah". It killed me cause I just couldn't believe it. I know he still loves me A LOT and I love him. He said the reason was because there was too much bickering between us lately and it was messing him up, plus his parents probably thought it would be better too for him. He has to go to work everyday and get ready for his senior year& stuff which I understand.
But he always used to be the one to call me, and care a lot, even when he said and wanted us to stay close and friends, for me to call him whenever I needed to talk about things in my life. After that he never called me back or texted me, this really shocked me. So then after that I decided to not bother to contact him eaither. Even deleted him off facebook, which I know he wouldn't ever do and once he would find out I know he'd be shocked I did so. Was this a good idea? I'm going to a party this friday, should I take pictures with other guy friends and not care anymore, do things he wouldn't like me to do when we were together, just try and let go ? Even if it still hurts me and I know he's still hurt. I'm going through so many emotions right now which I heard is normal, hatred, sadness towards him. I'm really angry now towards him so I deleted him off my facebook and I have the urge to make him want me back, idk.
I know its a lot, but its my first breakup and I don't know what to do.
for this party, he isn't invited. Its a sweet 16, should I look more "sexier", I'm already a good looking girl (not conceited) lol, but yeah should I make a better effort for looking extra hot :)?
no rude or annoying or pointless answers, idc how I sound right now over yahoo. I need some help. Thank ya<3xo
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There are a lot of different answers for this type of question, but I have a similar story but the break up was for different reasons, but I'm trying to help you so I won't go into that. Anyway, its going to be hard, and emotional, but deleting him and ignoring him will not help. I was a wreck, and I remember the only thing that helped me, was knowing he was getting through it. Although, I wasn't angry at my first break up-e, knowing he was getting through helped me realize that he was getting to be OK, and that I was too. Don't give into random whims of anger such as deleting him, you will regret it later.
And also, you wanting to dress up is only you passivly telling him that he gave you this freedom, take it as he will, sort of thing. You don't have to do anything to prove to him what he did. If it will help you get over him, sure, why not? But don't only be doing it with him in mind, cause that's just you trying to spite him. If you are going to dance with other guys, do it cause you know you want to for your own reasons.0