I need serious advice?
What Guys Said 1
Yes, but advice about what? Could you please update with a specific issue or two?
What Girls Said 2
So either you get and your husband go see someone about working on your marriage... if you think there's any possible way that you can forgive him. But if it bothers you that much and you can't look past the things that he has done, then it's best you move on. Get a divorce and leave. Don't stay with him because of the kids. You'll never be happy not grow together if that's always in the back of your mind. The other part of me wants to just straight up tell you to leave his ass. But I get it... you have kids, this isn't going to be as easy as it would be for me in your situation. You need to do what's going to make you happiest and what's in the best interest for you and your kids. If that means leave, so be it. It's unhealthy to leave with that hanging over your marriage.
14 years is a long time.
I knew that my husband and needed help long before we actually started going to marriage counselling but it wasn't until we hit rock bottom that he agreed to go.
It was his idea in the end.
Get yourself a copy of Dr John Gottmans
Seven principals for making marriage work, there is so much information and great advice in it.
A book would be a great first step.
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