I got dumped about 6 weeks ago. I was really heartbroken but I'm finally starting to get over it. My ex try to friend zone me of course and I said NO thinking it would lower my self esteem. She jumped right in a relationship with another guy.
For a long time I was refused to be "chumped" into the friend zone. We started off dating,so getting downgraded to friends felt insulting. However even when I was dating her I HAD DOUBTS about getting into a relationship with her. However she ultimately dumped me.
Part of me is thinking that a friendship might be okay at this point cause she really isn't the woman for me. However if I do start talking to her I really don't want to hear anything about the guy she is with. Not a peep, especially since she once tried to get advice from me about guys once (after we broke up the first time...we broke up twice). I feel like if I start talking to her again she'll bring him up.
Should I break it off for good? That was my original plan. If I do start talking to her again should I tell her I'm alright being friends just as long she doesn't talk about certain things? Part of really me does miss just talking to her (with no agenda).
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It's all or nothing. either deal with being an actual friend and giving the advice you don't want to give or don't be friends. You are not over her if it bugs you that she is talking about or dating others. That may not be something you believe or want to hear but that's how it is. you might consider telling her that you need some space from her for a little while longer until you can handle her talking about other guys. but it is all or nothing because girls like having guy friends that give them honest advice about being with other guys.0