I just wanted to collect some answers in the hope I would feel better. I know guys will answer this and get funny about how I feel, but I ask that you answer honestly according to what you believe about your gender.
My ex would always like (not so much facebook) girls instagram selfies. This is both provocative and plain selfies. Most of them are edited and you can tell, but some are natural. Part of the reason I left him was because he wouldn't stop when I begged him to, due to how anxious and undervalued it
made me feel. I hoped after leaving I would stop having the urge to stop looking... but it hasn't worked.
I still look on some of the girls account because I have the push to. I don't know why, I can't stand him anymore because of the other reasons we broke up, but I just don't know why I feel the urge to look and see what he's liked?
Does anyone have any advice on how to stop or at least how long it will be till I stop wanting to look?
I don't wanna delete instagram because I have it for my own personal use, and I have blocked the girls, but I still feel the urge to go digging and it really sucks.
- Once you get over him you won't want to do it anymore
- You're always gonna want to look
- Other (please elaborate)
Most Helpful Guy
it will go away when you both want it to go away and let it go away. everything we do is for a reason and always more then one reason goes into our decisions even if we don't realize at the time... you don't want to stop looking at heart cause you have hope you are gonna look one day and find out he ain't liking their stuff anymore... you don't let it go away because you loved him and don't know if you will ever find love like that again. And hell I don't know for sure but I don't think you will find love like that again... but that's because loving someone for the same reasons and ways you loved him would be loving him. you will love others just as much probably more but it will be for different reasons. I think it's messed up when people can't work because of social media and well other people in general because no matter the temptations around a relationship all that should matter is no matter how much flirting or looking or whatever goes on every second a person's heart should be with the one they love and the one they love have this heart so they should feel that and know nothing can mess up what is real... however love is this complicated hurtful hard to do shit. this idea of things working cause it's real, ain't no rule. do yea your desire might go away might not depends on you but only you can make it go away... good luck hope I helped a little
Most Helpful Girl
First of all, you had every right to end things with him x I mean how hard is it to stop tapping a picture right? Especially if your girl is upset about it. The urge will definitely fade, literally take one full day off instagram or if you go on fight the urge to look at the likes xx. The first day is the hardest, from there it's easy. You're stronger than you think. Remember there's always a guy out there who will treat you better and an extra inch 😉 Haha. Judging from your profile picture you're beautiful, so I assume many guys would love to take you out on a date, just try and forget him, start things with someone worth your time