I recently went out on a date with this guy, and ended up making out with him at his place (I didn't want to go further). I texted him the next day, but he never responded and I haven't heard from him.
Do you think he just wanted sex?
Have you ever gone on a date with a girl just to get some?
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"Have you ever gone on a date with a girl just to get some?"
Well, that depends. Have you ever flirted or gone out on a date with a guy you had no intention of ever having sex with?
It's all about timing & risk of loss.
A fling has amazing (pros). Although guys never stand to "gain" anything in neither flings nor relationships; guys don't stand to lose as much in flings. You're not that emotionally involved, and if you both walk away, it's not like you've lost all this time & money that you'll never see back again. But the most important (pro) of a fling, is that it gives you the opportunity to see which girls have honest intentions about you; and which girls are not really that into you. So the sexual relationship takes off earlier and before the emotional relationship "fully" or "completely" take off. It gives you a chance to see a lot of things. Is this girl being sexually honest with you? Is she really feeling you & wanting you, or only pretending to? Obviously, a fling completely removes the risk of being used, since sex has been hadeth; so you can't walk away from the situation and feel used. Plus, are the two of you sexually compatible? Maybe she likes to talk dirty, but it turns you off. Maybe you like it more slow & sensual but she likes it more rough and fast. It would be a mistake to grow emotionally together first, and then compromise on these equally important issues just for the sake of being emotionally together. That just creates the perfect environment to feel empty or that something is missing in your relationship; and creates a high risk of separation or cheating later down the road; which is even more hurtful. (So as "primitive" as male thinking might seem, its long-term planning is very well thought-out & soundly concluded)
(Though, a fling is a "safe" option for the guy, but very "risky" for the girl)
Alternatively, the "safe" option for the girl, is also the "risky" option for the guy. It's risky, because the only person who stands to lose, is the guy. He takes on the very serious risk of investing his time & money (which is really just more of his time if you think about it); being involved with someone that's not interested in him. If that's not the case, all he has is sex. If that is the case though; a portion of his lifetime on this earth was "wasted" and instead used to finance a dinner or other material things for an other person. It's something he will "actually" be losing, and never getting back. Relationships have (cons) written all over them from the guy's point of view. But they're the exact opposite of flings, in the sense that they represent the "safe" option for girls. There's a "near complete" emotional development first, in which the girl has the opportunity to get to know the guy, and decide if she wants to take the relationship somewhere sexually. Why some guys finance her deliberation period is beyond me. Why more guys don't ask themselves this question is beyond me too.0