I've been married 10 years now. We have 2 kids which I adore. However about 7 years ago my wife and I started becoming more distant. Since the start of 2017 we have made love once. She is always preoccupied with work, or chatting to her coworkers. She maintains she loves me and wants to fix things, and after an argument things will be good for a day or 2. But then it reverts to original state of apathy. I feel so empty, drained, and alone. She says her issues are where we live, and my family. She has also stated that unless I make more money and buy a nicer house she won't focus on trying to make me happy.
Is it too late already? I feel so weighted down that I could break any time.
Most Helpful Girl
Wow. She needs to humble herself and be grateful for her life but it seems to me she isn't, which is a shame cause I bet many women wish they where in her position right now. Married, kids, jobs... etc. I say you guys should get help from a professional and try to fight for this marriage, but both people need to be sure that this is what you really want. When you guys said I do, you also meant through thick and thin. This is a thick time, so you should try to fight through it. Good luck!2
Most Helpful Guy
I've been in a similar situation. Had a kid with a girl I was seeing in high school. We made it work (kind of) and even had another child, got married and bought a house. Every year that passes we become more and more like roommates. I don't find her attractive sexually at all. we haven't had sex in two years. But we stay for the kids and it's comfortable. Not sure how much longer it can go like this. Suppose when the kids are gone we will decide. Sometimes I feel like I'm wasting my life but I also see the single friends and I feel my life is much more full than there's. It's a tough call.2