Despite my age, I'm inexperienced at dating. The only real girl I went after was different from me: she was a drinker/partier, more extroverted and sociable. That didn't go well; but, luckily, there's this cute girl in my class who's like me--studious, introverted. The problem is that I commute to campus, so the only time I see her is during classes. To add to that, she's always sitting or with her friends. I've been working hard on my sociability, and I've improved to the point where I'm not awkward, but I still can't "stand out", if you know what I mean. I can only add to conversation.
What's holding me back from talking to her more and asking her to do something is that she doesn't display any signs of being interested in me. She's not shy around me, she's always more interested in the work in front of her, and, well I guess she knows I'm there, but she doesn't care, if you get my drift. My failings in my last pursuit is causing me to put the brakes on this one, because now I think I'm recognizing the signs early and I can just save myself some heartbreak. I mean, I would think that girls are usually shy around guys they think they might like or they look at them when they think they're not looking, but that's not happening here. Then again, I also tell myself that she won't know if she likes me until she gets to know me, which makes me want to talk to her again. So I don't know what to do.
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Well you say she studies a lot, and she's in your class(es), so you should go study with her. Ask for help with something you know she's good at. Do actually study - don't arrange to meet up and then start pulling the moves on her as soon as she opens the book. If you study with her for a while then she'll get used to you, she might start talking to you in class, but also she might start to like you. Maybe she doesn't look at you or anything because she doesn't expect guys to like her. Sometimes it can be endearing to a girl when a guy likes her. As long as you're not totally creepy about, which it doesn't sound like you are. Either she'll subtly pick up on the fact that you like her (which you probably won't have to try with) or she'll just start to like you and you'll probably pick up on that. Go for a few study evenings first. If all goes well, maybe later you can ask her to go see a movie or something =] good luck!0