I was dating the perfect guys, he was kind and caring, and yes we were sexual. He hadn't talked to me in a few days so I reached out to him, and he ignored it. I broke down and assumed it was his way of breaking it off with me. I messaged him that I didn't want to get closer to someone that isn't sure of what they want and that I need someone that is one hundred percent sure they want to be with me. He said he thinks I'm amazing and that he's not fit for one hundred precent.. (I deleted him on social media) and we haven't talked since for a month. And now I'm stuck crying everyday because I feel like I brought this upon my self. I live with this dread that it's my fault and that I've lost the greatest man I've ever met. I feel so devastated. Never felt this way before and I don't understand what to do to make it go away. Did I mess up?
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By the time I'm seeing this, you probably are overwhelmed by all the different opinions you are reading. I completely understand why you did what you did. On one hand, it's awesome that you did that and kindof called him out. On the other, you both had closure of what you had, regardless of how you feel.
Do I think you messed up? No. You didn't act "psycho" or say anything that was bizarre or not true. The possibility of reconciliation isn't lost, but then again who's to say it's there except for maybe god? It's like looking at map of a deserted island, and thinking "maybe I'll stumble upon treasure" it's possible, but you can't get your hopes up.
Don't beat yourself up over it. What YOU did was not wrong. I don't think it made a difference if he wasn't 100 percent. I wish I could tell you why he stopped talking to you and feeling this way, but I can't. It could be a lot of things, he could be a sex-craving jerk, he could have had the male freak out, he may not have been interested... who knows! As to what you should do next, I wish I could tell you to text him and ask how he is, but that could go wrong for you and lead you to more hurt and rejection (although we both know you're considering it!) try to focus on yourself. Buy yourself awesome clothes, go out with your good friends, do the hobbies and things you love. No, it won't take your hurt away or bring him back, but it will at least take your mind off of it a little.
I'm going through something very similar, so know that you're not the only one hurting. I truly mean it that (and it's probably because I'm going through something similar) even though I don't know you, I hope it all works out. I know everyone's calling him a jerk on here, but I understand when you meet someone truly amazing, it's easier to ignore their mistakes. Good luck! :)0