After a long deliberation, I have decided that I am completely given up on dating, love, relationships, the whole nine. I've had problems with dating ever since I started dating in high school. When my white boyfriend broke up with me because his friends and family were giving him shit about dating a black woman. Ever since then every guy I've dated has done nothing but use me, play me, and lie to me. No matter what I do. I've dated different races, different personalities, even resorted to online dating and it was still shit, hence the last guy I dated. All love has done to me is hurt me and leave me in financial ruin and I just truly believe that I'm one of those unfortunate ones that will never find it. Everyone is so quick to say I'm attractive but if that was the case I would have someone by now, probably be married. Obviously that's just not in the cards for me and I have to just learn to deal with it. Anyone else who feel the same way feel free to commiserate. For those who are in relationships and want to talk about how happy you are and love exists, save it. I don't want to read it. 💯✌️Sometimes love doesn't exist for some people.
Most Helpful Guy
Perhaps you are right to give up on it because most can only do dysfunction. Everything you find out there, is a much deeper reflection of the current state of the world. The world is dysfunctional, most are not living through their higher self, the vibration overall is lower than it should be, and although some are awakening, it is not yet enough to change the dominant form of the planet.
Many think that love involves ups and downs, arguments, heart ache, misunderstandings, and differences, but it does not. Most of those things come from a purely mind based connection where love cannot exist, only the idea of it is mistaken for it's existence.
There will be a time where real love flourishes and the world becomes as it should be, but I will be dead by then.
However, if you wish not to give up, then your best bet is to go within as deep as possible, heal your wounds, understand your vibration, your egos presence and ''power'', your state of consciousness, and who you are beneath the exterior. That is the only way to attract a truly decent person but that is the very surface.0
Most Helpful Girl
Um... Being attractive may attract your man, but it does little to keep him around. Even the most beautiful and attractive celebrities, models and actors suffer from divorce and cheating. In order to find love and keep it, you have to work VERY hard. Finding and keeping love is NOT easy. Relationships are work. You have to work hard to keep it together. It's a lifetime commitment and you have to be ready and willing to make that commitment.
Just ask people that have been married and together for 30+ years and they will more than likely tell you the same thing. There will be moments where you think you couldn't make it, where you thought you weren't right for each other, where you broke up for a period of time, where one of you did something horribly wrong, etc. However, they stuck it out because they were DETERMINED, DESPERATE, and REFUSED to not make things work. The first couple that comes to mind is Beyonce and Jay-Z.
People these days aren't willing to fight and go the distance when it comes to love, and judging from your question.. neither are you. Our generation has very non-realistic expectations and views when it comes to love. Ultimately, if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone.. be prepared for a life of 80% percent trouble, hardships and work and 20% percent fun, love and good memories.
My parents have been together 25+ years and I think there are more annoyed by each other than anything, but the love is still there. Think about your own relationship with your family. It took years of work, patience and turning a blind eye to get to the point where you are now, didn't it? There were some days where I wanted nothing more than to throw certain family members off the roof (constantly begging for money, constantly disappointing me, constantly getting into legal trouble, etc)... but, I stood by them.
I realized what I want out of life pretty early and have decided that this path is not worth it for me. I would rather stay involved in other people's families (sister, parents, brother, friends etc) then make a family of my own.
I hope you're not offended or anything by my post! Good luck to you!0