Ok please watch the video/link in this question. I truly believe that just being a good person in a relationship or even life is not good enough for a relationship. So I really felt like the guy being spoken about in the video. Cause I am the one hysterically crying and torn, and he is calm & so understanding.
I broke up with my boyfriend of two years. He is understanding, loving, good person and forgiving. But that is it. He has no raw intelligence, not a good communicator, not funny, not good at sex and cannot last, not financially stable. But also, I wanted to work on my career, studies, life and goals, and, family. I am seeking clarity in my life as well.
But I cried to myself because, i know how many awful type of men out there. But he is a good guy who comforts me when i am hurt. So breaking up with him, is the right decision, cause I can see I would end up cheating later on in our lives together.
But do you think being a good person, in his case, is someone no one should leave?
Most Helpful Guy
It's okay if you feel you're not compatible. There are different flavors of good guys: you're not obligated to stay the rest of your life with the first good guy who shows interest in you.
Just make sure you're not trading him in for a bad guy, because that's 100% on you.2
Most Helpful Girl
There are a lot of good people out there but if there is not that connection, unfortunately being a good person alone isn't going to cut it.
I know it feels wrong but you know the saying "you gotta be cruel to be kind". It will hurt him for now but in the long run you will both find partners who you are actually well suited to and he won't have to face the pain of you cheating or whatever down the road so in the end, he'll end up happier. Try think of it like that. Yes he is nice but he lacks in a lot of other areas, try to think of it like that.1