i was in a relation for 3 years and we've been away for almost a year. things were going smoothly. we had time differences and one day she said she had enough and broke up wjth me cos she felt i did not find enough time for her. i tried talking to her from the next day itself and she blocked me. the next day she went and slept with another guy. that went on for 4 days and i din know. she came back to me after a week saying she made a mistake. and i forgave her. we got back. she told me she did not talk to uim and stuffs. and she was being honest. i trusted her. but then after 2 weeks she broke up again and i later found out she was still talking to thaf guy. i lost it completely and sweared at her with all i had and left. now she's texting me saying for the sake of our relationship we had for 3 years forgive me and all. i gave her a chance once and she did that behind my back. i dont trust her anymore. should i forgive her?
She slept with another guy saying she was depressed and lonely?
What Girls Said 1
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this tough time right now, the most difficult thing in a relationship is knowing when enough is enough, and then later on regretting it further down the line. She sounds very confused to me, sounds like she would like your attention to be all on her, which doesn't work in a relationship. It takes two to tango so the attention should be just the same on both parts. It also sounds like she thinks she can crawl back to you whenever she likes, and that is not fair on you because you have feelings as well. Making up and breaking up in relationships is never healthy, and I think you two need to have a sit down and a proper talk and address the situations at hand, she can't expect you to forgive her everytime she goes off and does something 'silly' and then comes back, your feelings are a part of this too. I don't know her and she may well be depressed, but to me it just sounds like this is trying to get your attention and mess with your head everytime. Depression isn't something to play on and she's not fair to tell you that as a maybe excuse, but like I said, I don't know her and she could be depressed or had a bad past with me. Your best thing to do before forgiving her, is to sit down and talk to her properly. Talking always helps. But remember to think of yourself in all of this and look after you. Things will turn out how they're meant to in the end.
Good Luck & Keep Smiling :)1
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What Guys Said 1
in my opinion you can give her a last chance! I agree with her, after being for 3 years it's not easy to let go!
ask how she feels & what she actually wants...
take care of her! she was with other guy, coz she may be confused or temporary temptation or lust!
when you do something with her, make sure you both are satisfied with the decision & not turning back. you should also say all how you feel of her doing this!
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