Lost on what to do about my relationship... He tells me he's been having dreams about his Ex?
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It'll always be like that with just about anybody. You should understand that he used to love her, that a human being will always remember how they once loved anybody. And I mean, 6 years, that's a long time. He won't forget his past, memories will always be there, good or bad. But you can make new memories. He said he loved you, give him a chance because I'm sure that one day all he'll think about is you. (Well, almost)
I went through the same thing and the truth is it isn't easy. Knowing that the person you love is thinking about someone else.
However, think to yourself, "does he make me happy?" Because that is all that should matter. If you don't feel happy having him close then move on. Maybe take a second break for yourself, to think about your relationship to him and how you feel about it.
You also mentioned you guys are not official after a year (?). To me, it's concerning that you haven't put a label to your relationship. You see, it would be understandable if you guys just want to fool around and have some fun. However, the way I see it is that you really love him, why else would you be here?
Remember, "time heals all wounds," but also remember to not get fooled.
Everyone occasionally thinks about previous relationships, memories are a part of life. But the fact it's at least 12 months since they broke up and he's still considering a previous relationship makes me think he isn't even trying to move on. Some people thrive on memories... the good old days that have actually been elevated in their mind to be better than what it was in reality and compare things to that time.
Personally I wouldn't have even invested this much time... having an ex constantly in the sidelines because he can't let go isn't for me
I don't think he's over her
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