My husband and I have been together for 4 years (married for 2) and are both 22 with a toddler. In February he joined the Marines. We can't live together while he's in school and everything (it's been 6 months so far with 6 more to go). Obviously it's challenging and I doubt it will stay this hard when we can live together again. But the problem is he keeps essentially forgetting about me. He doesn't call until he's too tired to talk for more than about 20 minutes (he gets out of class at noon). He even went as far as saying it's not convenient for him to have to hold the phone to talk to me while he's playing video games. I know it's just a hard situation, but I have friends telling me it's no excuse... I miss having attention from my husband but at this point I just want attention. Anyone have any advice?
Most Helpful Guy
i think you find acceptance that while yuo are absolutely a priority in his life he does have a calling that demands tons of time, attention and emotion. so when he does have breaks he may truly need a mindless escape. it's hard and i'm sure it sucks but i think you have to accept this as fact.
but i would talk to him about arranging a sort of schedule when you guys can talk that works for both of you. perhaps corresponding via email or even old school mail would be a nice option to subsidize less one on one conversations.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Makes no sense that he joined the marines now that he's married and has a toddler knowing he would be away for 6 months. If he wanted to be in the marines then that's something he should of did before getting married and having a child, if you met/married while he was in the marines then I could back him up on that cause that would have been your decision to get with him. As a husband this was a very poor decision to make cause now its putting a strain on your marriage and not to mention he's not there to even see his own kid. In a way I would feel like him joining the army was some type of excuse to escape, cause now he's making up all these excuses to not even stay in contact with you. At least husbands in the marines/ military to that much when their away from their wives, next time you speak with him just tell him if doesn't want to be married anymore than all he has to do is say so. If he does want to stay married, then tell him he needs to start putting some effort into speaking with you, he might be busy but the times he does have free sense he's obviously playing video games, needs to spent talking to you for at least and the baby via Skype for at least an hour or two.5THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE