6 months into our marriage, while I was working my butt off to give us a decent place to live, he was going out with other "friends" (girls he had met through apps the day before) and paying them meals, all while unemployed. The worst part is that I found out he was lying to all of these "just friends": none of them knew he was married. They either thought he was single or that I was the "mean gf" and that he was about to break up with me. He was even planning a trip to Amsterdam with one of his new "friends" after leaving me. He was constantly spending money on alcohol and weed, so I guess these girls were his company on that.
When I confronted him, he was angry, threw stuff around, called me crazy, said I'd never understand his free lifestyle (did I mention he was an enlightened being as well?), and that these new people he met were much cooler than me. He kept blaming me for the things he'd done, as well as my mother, his parents, his country, society. He never said he was sorry, not once. He started running out of people to blame, out of arguments, out of logic. He even tried to manipulate my family into thinking I needed to take medication because I was depressed and couldn't understand reality. Looking back, he was so desperate it's almost funny.
But there's this voice in the back of my head asking what else could I have done? Did I exaggerate? Would other girls accept this and chill? I was sure until now, but some days I just second guess myself and think I need to stop this in order to move on.
Most Helpful Guy
The only thing you did wrong was not divorce him sooner. It's the best thing you could have possibly done. He wants to be free? Let him be free.
Most Helpful Girl
You thought you were in love and clearly it's low self esteen being treated this way