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It happens, but it's never normal. There is something really wrong if you lost attraction to who you're with. I'm not talking about sexual wise outside of marriage because I personally don't agree with it. Marriage is a whole different story. But if you are having so much of an issue then this is something you need to question. Your relationship shouldn't be based on feelings and emotions. That's number 1. Number 2, if your relationship started out of lust, that is a sign that breakup is imminent because you can't love a person without lusting for their body, according to you. That should never have to be. Your relationship should be based on love that you are willing to provide and give that person. You should love them for their personality, not their looks. Obviously, if you didn't like how they look then why are you with them? That shouldn't be important if this is that. If your that contemplative, then you need to have a sit down with that person and talk to them. See where they feel the relationship is going. Getting stronger, neutral, or falling apart? If you can't talk it out peacefully, then it's best to say it's over. Relationships shouldn't have to be where you give up over silly things if it's petty. You should still always communicate with your partner about these things. That's what they are there for.
Again, remember people who lust after they are looking or are already with often lose attraction 200% faster IMHO than people who always loved them but felt something is off about the relationship. That's why you have to get into a relationship for all the right reasons.
I was with my wife 25 years and 4 days. I have known her since Jan 10, 1989. I find her as amazingly beautiful today as the first day I saw her walk out of her house. So no, I don't think that it is normal in any way. When your in a long term relationship, the intensity of your relationship evens out and has up and downs. It does not stay the same as the "honeymoon" period...
you must learn what true seduction is. and i don't mean to seduce him. you have been seduced by a false lover- one created in your own mind. that is why you lose attraction over time. because the real lover can never live up to the one you seduced yourself with. love is a decision as much as a feeling. decide to put him first. decide to investigate him- instead of waiting to see how his actions make you feel. don't be content to just talk about the mundane issues of his day. how was work, drive home, the ball game, etc. guys constantly complain that women are shallow and vapid, always talking about the latest gossip or other stupid things. sure there's things that interest us but if you try to talk with him or do things with him that interest him you may find that silly thing he's doing in the garage is actually neat. and when you want to hang out with him while he's doing his thing over time you will connect on a different level. he will desire you, and his desire will arouse you in turn. i was with a man once who was doing remodeling work on his house. he was working and i was helping him here and there- talking together. then something just happened. the conversation stopped and our eyes locked... and we were all over each other. sawdust and tools literally flying everywhere.
Yes. There ate highs and lows in most relationships. Many guyd cheat and desire sex with other women because its different. With a long term partner the sex csn be good, you can love them, but the same thing after 2 years gets boring unless you hold out. Its like this. Chocolate chip may be your favorite ice cream. But every day for 2 years? You want a new flavor. Not because you love the other flavore or even like it... because its different.Couples if sex is getting boring, agree to a one month celibacy pledge. Set a date to have wild sex and the fire will return. All the other stuff is about the personal part of a relationship. Thats a deeper discussion of what to work out.
i don't know if it's normal. i mean humans tend to get less physically attractive as the age so i guess i wouldn't be hard to believe that partners are less physically attractive to each other but attraction outside of phsyical attraction i'd imagine that in happy relationships the level of attraction stays the same or growsso it's certainly a reality that some become less attractive.
I think attraction and romantic interests ebb and flow with relationships. That's why communicating and trying to keep things fresh is important. If you feel the relationship is just downhill, then communication is even more important... if you're even interested in making that relationship better of course.
It's normal for some of the crazy electricity between you to die down a little. There will always be more sparks at the beginning of the relationship when things are brand new and exciting. But the attraction should still be there. If it's not, there may be a problem.
Yes has happened to me, but only happened because we did the same thing over and over. Need a bitta spice, maybe do something with them that's completely random but you know you both would enjoy it, like it would help remind you why you were attracted to them in the first place? Hope that helps?
I think those things fluctuate but if it's really low then maybe you should communicate any issues with your partner that you may have. I think there is usually something in the relationship that drives that. Of course the honeymoon phase always ends at some point.
I believe it's natural to an extent. Sometimes there are moments when you may be more attracted than others and this can happen a few times. If you think you are losing the attraction perhaps see if there is something you could do that might make it go up again.
There is no universal 'normal'. That's something that differs with each individual/culture/society, etc..As for myself- no. I haven't become less attracted to my partner over time. If anything, I became more attracted to him in basically every aspect.
I don't think so unless something bad happened. I get less attracted to someone who hurts me, no matter how good looking. Also something they did could make you look at them differently, this is why many part ways after a bad fight or so.
From psychological view it is not alright. When we love somebody and we want to spend time with them we find them most attractive for us and also their smell is for us the most beautiful. If physical and psychical attraction fades and their smell is not as pleasant as it was before that only means separation will happen... most likely.
Every relationship has its own uniqueness. But I think what you may be referring, is sometimes a marriage to become a little stale. The best way to handle circumstances when they are a bit stale is to rediscover mutual wants, interests and goals,, but also focus on spicing things up.
I am getting to where my husband doesn't turn me like he used to but I feel its because he is not open to trying new things and I am tired of the same old stuff.
Yes it isAs long as it's not true love (like the old school) any human being is bound to get bored of his/her partner if he or she was just looking for blind company or meaningless sex. So just move on before you make things worse.
It's not natural to feel that way but if there is a time where you and your partner had that initial spark, you and your partner should do what it all started
Physically attractive, or all round attractive? If there's nothing drawing you together, maybe it's time to move on?
This is normal, because we become less attractive as we age. This is why people who are shallow and merely go for looks and sexual attraction in a partner, end up thinking the way you do.
Classic hypergamy. Yes, for women this is common. If your man isn't upping his game you'll grow increasing bored, shut down sexually, bail or cheat, or any combination of these. Talk to him about your feelings - you two need some help with the spark and passion in your relationship.
If you mean, you don't want to constantly have sex with them, it just means the honeymoon phase is over. And that's normal. They became part of your regular life.If you mean they turn you off and you're not excited to meet them. Then you should think whether its a phase or the relationship is not right for you.
I don't know if it's normal but it happens. Maybe it means another stage of relationship, maybe the begging of the end of it.
It happens. However is it normal? I can't answer that. People are different.
yes it's normal. when you first get into a relationship, you'll view your partner as 1000/10 for attraction. but after time, it may get down to a lower and lower number overtime because you're used to seeing them all the time (especially if you live together). but as long as you don't lose complete physical, mental, and sexual attraction to them, i'd say it's normal or else you've lost your connection if you've lost all those completely
It may be "normal", but that's a sign of someone falling out of love as love is what ignites attraction. Lots of married couples who have been married for 20+ still find their spouses to be the most beautiful individuals in the world. I could never get tired of staring at someone I'm in love with even if time has elapsed. Time does not destroy attraction, just like it doesn't destroy love.
When you realize that they weren't who you thought they were...
No. unless he/she discontinues to take care of one's self and/or if their attitude has taken a wrong turn. Has he changed physically or personality wise?
Completely normal.Used to get a boner every time I saw her wear a different sexy outfit. But then after a while she had to do something sexy to get me started. Like come out of the shower and "accidentally" drop her towel.It's like starting a new job. At first you are nervous, then you get used to it.
ii think overtime your partner should become more attractive not less. when you love them you find things they do more attractive
@babylips14 Thank you!!
I hope not... that's exactly what scares me about marriage or super-long-term or whatever.
What do you lack.. mental satisfaction or physical satisfaction?
Yeah you have ur feelings at the top n ypu may lose these feelings n intrest by time. one they you may even not have any left.
Actually attraction not remain forever. It is a virtual thing. When we are in relationship then attraction not matter too much and no need this type of waste activity while already a strong relationship. love is not compel of attraction.
yes is normal, sometime you change your ind and style..
i don't think so, doesn't happen with my partner and i
It should not be this way, you should always feel love for your significant other.
There's a difference between love and attraction though.
@ThisDudeHere you are right, but if you truly love and care for someone, you wouldn't feel attracted to others, or you would overcome your lesser urges and refrain from looking elsewhere
I feel as though this does not necessarily mean that she wants to look at other people, but that she just isn't as attracted to him as much as she was initially. This doesn't really mean she wants to cheat or whatever, but maybe she's questioning whether she should end the relationship or hold out for better days.
Dude, that's a pretty naive thought. Attraction to other people never goes away, even when you're in love.
@creepypanda I would agree with you.
@ThisDudeHere I agree with OP. Love alters the way you perceive other people physically. So as long as you're in love, that person remains the most beautiful person in the world to you even if you have been together for decades. Just look at people who claim That their wives are the most beautiful women in the world after 10+ years of marriage. If attraction is fading away, that means you're not in love anymore as one of the effects of love is attraction.
@creepypanda I'm just going to say the same thing I told the other guy who commented. If you lose attraction to someone over time, that means you were never in love in the first place or fell out of love. Time does not automatically destroy attraction.
@OP, I agree 100%.
Finding others attractive and losing attraction for a significant other are two completely different arguments.
I have a crush on you
@babylips14 thanks for elaborating, i could not find the words to explain myself so well.
@ElissaDido sorry i am talking to someone already
Normal but not the desirable outcome we want... you want to more attracted and yes that does happen...
yeah people forget to court each other, comfortable shoes get old and thrown out, gotta polish and take of them
It's never out of the question. As long as she has the same qualities she had before you two started dating, you can still be attracted to her.
no, it shouldn't happen... did you meet anyone else?
My so and I have been dating fore 2 years now and I love him more and more everyday
Thank you!!! I can't believe so many people on here actually think that time destroys attraction smh.
Sure I think it's possible. I think all long term relationships take work. You need to constantly keep it interesting especially in the bed room
Yes. Attraction changes over the course of a relationship.
You only ever lose interest at the fault of your own. girls do this like... alllllot.
Yes, and it's inevitable. It's biology, there's nothing you can do about it.
No not really. If you love each other , the attraction will always remain
❌❌❌I think it's very common for girls to just lose attraction. After all they initiate 70% of divorces and are always the ones complaining in a marriage.
Riiiight. Guys just complain about girls they've never even met in real life... anonymously. What a brave little soul you are.
Girls Can't handle the truth 😂. You're hardly a brace would yourself 😂
You do realize there's 8 lady's that disagree with what you said... unreal... lmao
and its not normal for women to lose attraction... no no no... only if they think looks over personality
Attraction isn't just looks. Girls suddenly lose attraction for a guys personality overnight sometimes. Then they just see him as ugly.
8 girls can't handle the truth
not if you love their personality, personality makes a person beautiful... so tough shi*
Well say that to 70% of married women.
Maybe girls just See YOU as ugly overnight. And YOU'RE the one who can't handle the truth so you blame all girls for disliking your shitty personality.
I'm 18 and never been in a relationship. I don't really care what assumptions you make. 70%. Girls are the unhappy ones - not me 👍
Well it's not normal... if people do theirs reasons behind it such as...They've cheated and they are finding flaws or they are in love with someone else.That's why you don't fall in love with their looks honestly your asking for it. Because later on in life. Wrinkles they get gray hair they gain weight etc that will change an apperence
And if your single and never had a girl you just can't assume something because your making an ass out of you and me so just grow up. Get in a relationship and have fun and experience life
@xButterflyKisses87x it's not the time for me to get into a relationship. This coming year I just want to focus on my exams!
@xButterflyKisses87x he's just another inexperienced Mr. Know-it-all. Let's use our time more wisely and not take this little kid seriously. He doesn't know what he's talking about. All ego and all talk, but no substance.
This kid here has a 10million trust fund. Why is it in a trust? Because women are known for their divorces. I also have high standards. Also, I'm only gonna marry a virgin - someone who respects their body and only shares it with someone truly important. The 8 girls that disagree are the ones that 'lose attraction' overnight and screw another guy and up their dick count. I will happily stay single until 23-25 then we can see what good, respectable women' are left 👍
Last time you are a troll, the 8 people who thumbs down actually disagreed with you.. Whoever the heck you are, I am seriously done with you, you don't know anything
@TheDevilInside Agreed I'm done with this douche, I'm going to ignore this thread now you're right
Okay 👍 You dimwits clearly can't make a clear decision and are taking it way too personally. 👋
🖕 you don't understand you have never had a girlfriend lmao. Go get lost and now I am done
Ha, there is no shame in that - it's a good thing. I'm going to wait for someone special/deserving of love. I don't need a girlfriend. I never will, but I really want one in the future. Girls and guys my age go to clubs to get drunk and kiss as many girls/guys as they can 🤢. Fuck that, Im so above that.You're 30 years old. Are you sure, I honestly feel like I'm talking to a 15 year old.
You're pissed 😤 because you feel guilty. You don't match what I want.
I could bloody care less... your an ass
You've said you have done with talking but you keep replying so I think you do care.
A change in attraction will be the result of change
It's normal for women. It's called new cock urge. You'll be cheating on him soon.
No, that's not normal or healthy.
You're not in love anymore. end the relationship before you hurt this other person.
That looks like daenerys
Exactly what I thought.
Wuh-oh, reverse nighting gale syndrome alert.
Gotta water a plant to not let it whither...
I am more attracted over time
it happens as people get older they change
lmao that braid
Of course it is lol
Yes, it is normal.
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