Hi everyone, I've been seeing this guy for almost 8 months. He's about 10 years older than me, and moving 3 hours away this fall. We started out by just having sex once or twice a week, and then after some time, I started sleeping at his place almost every night. We were both very busy with school and only saw each other at night.. going on dates was difficult. But we would watch movies in bed, cook dinner together, have deep conversations, it felt like we were in a relationship. After waiting a couple months for him to "make it official", I decided to just go ahead and ask. He told me his life was too unorganized to get into a relationship, which I could understand, and we decided on just being exclusive. When summer came, we talked almost everyday through the phone or by Skype. At one point, he was in my area and came to see me/meet my parents. I asked him again about our relationship and even said I was willing to do long distance, but he still doesn't want one (for the same reason as before). I'm starting to feel like he's just using me. Yesterday he told me he showed my nudes to a friend. I was, still am, very upset... I feel like this is almost a deal breaker for me, someone who really cares and respects their s/o wouldn't do that. Even before, in the first couple months we were seeing each other, I left my underwear at his place, and he told me that he let his friend smell them? I kind of brushed that off but now I'm scared that maybe I've been dismissing all the sh*tty things he's done because I love him. I feel like I'm partially to blame for his behavior because we were very sexual from the start... He tells me he misses me/cares about me and gets jealous easily... but do you think he'll ever commit?
Most Helpful Guy
he looks like a cheater to me, if you were staying together as often as you could, you had feelings for each other, you cooked dinner together and all of that, the only thing that being official would change is that others would know you're not single. and showing your nudes to his friends isn't your fault, you were being sexual with him not with his friends2
Most Helpful Girl
He's using you for sex. He's saying It's not even a relationship. For most people, if someone lives with them on daily basis in their room... it's already a relationship. But if he fails to acknowledge as so even after all that then he's just using you. Showing your pics and underwear is not cool...
by the way, for your own lesson in the future, you should be smart about pics like that... even if you let him take such pics you should be smart to delete them.2