OK there's this guy, we're like best friends and all. well he has a girlfriend. and I don't know if I like him or not...but the feelings are there... like it's hard to explain..like when he mentions his girlfriend I get sad..and sometimes a little jealous..but for the most part when I'm with him It doesn't feel like I like him in that way. only when he holds me or something..and well it's weird. and well he recently told me that he gets a little jealous when other guys talk to me(flirting) BUT he says he doesn't like me. and sometimes he hugs me and kisses me on the forehead, tickles me,and holds me by my waist sometimes. and sometimes I feel like we're a couple. BUT HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND. I don't get it...whats he feeling? what am I feeling? all this is so confusing... cause sometimes he acts as If he doesn't like me ...like if he only sees me as a friend...but than those moments happen. so gimme your opinions...MUCH APPRECIATED...
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I see what you mean!
Gosh, and men say WE'RE confusing! ;)
Okay, I'm definately not an expert when it comes to relationships... but I've had my fair share of heartbreaks. The way I see it, he likes you as a friend, and sometimes, you know, it's nice to build fairytales on friendships. Which is exactly what you're doing as well. Being with someone you're not supposed to be with... feeling more than you should... it's thrilling, and it's fun. But you keep playing with fire, you're going to burn someday, sweetheart.
Listen to these songs by Taylor Swift -
? Teardrops on my Guitar
? You belong with me
and see what you feel like after that. I thought I was in love with my best friend for ages. I kept on thinking of ways to make him notice me, or kiss me... while he had a girlfriend. He cheated on her loads, but never with me. Recently they broke up, I guess no matter how much you like someone, if they keep breaking your heart, eventually it's not gonna want to go back to that person. So I've gotten to know his ex-girlfriend, and you know what? I'm so glad I never more than kissed the guy while they were together. It would've broken her heart.
Do you really want to be with someone who would flirt with his "friends" behind your back? He likes the attention you're giving him. Try being like a sister to him, and date other guys (not serious dating, just to get to know other people as well - if he gets to keep his options open, so do you.) But I wouldn't put a great friendship at risk for something I'm not sure about myself. If he really does get jealous enough, he'll ask you out and you can have your fairytale relationship. For now, just be glad to have a wonderful friend - but keep that flirtations to a limit - if not for your own sake, but for his girlfriend's as well. Enjoy your years without a serious relationship - I know everyone always says this, but it's true: When you find the one, you'll know. Good luck, let me know what happens!1
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