There is a guy that I have had feelings for a little while now. He and I are like best friends, and we both trust each other with everything.
Well, just last night I decided to go for it and tell him that, even though I am older than him, I view him slightly more than just a friend. I told him that I did not want to ruin our friendship by any means, and felt that I could tell him about my true feelings.
He was perfectly fine with them, and he said that he already knew without me saying it. He said that he had thought about it, and that if I were not older he would feel the same. So he gently let me down saying that he didn't "exactly feel the same, but mainly because of the age difference."
He does talk about still having feelings for his ex, and how he wishes they would get back together. I've been totally supportive about this for him, and told him that I hope it works out for the best for him, and so on and so forth...
Also, he is the type of guy that likes to date girls younger than him...so my question is, should I just continue with him, and see how it plays out; if he does end up changing his mind, or should I just move on? Honest answers please!
Thank you and God Bless!
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OK, how much of an age difference is there? That kind of has a bearing on things. A couple of years is nothing, but a decade or so, well, that's maybe different. As you get older, the difference means less and less. I always liked older women though, as they're less skittish and flighty, and not as shallow . . . . . .generally speaking. You sound like you've got it together more than he does.
You're a strong woman, supporting him in getting back together with his ex. (Rebuilding the past never seems to work great though) You sound like fabulous "girlfriend material"! Maybe he just needs time to realize that.
How recently did he break up with his ex? That kind of has a bearing on things. If it's real fresh and raw, give him some time. If it's been a while, I'd continue with him. What's the issue with the age difference as he sees it?
If he's dead set on younger women, then that's his preference, and you can't do much about it. (It'd be like a real skinny girl trying to start a serious relationship with me when only plus-sized girls really interest me romantically)
It could be the subconscious mindset that the older person somehow "controls" the relationship through "seniority". An older woman would be a threat to his "position of authority". Maybe way off the mark, but some guys are like that.0