He's one of my friends. We slept together but he is still in love with his ex. How can I change the situation? How to act or what to say in order to make him realize his ex is an ex for a reason, and I could be a better catch if he'd let me a chance (without begging).
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Love is tricky, darlin... BUT... this is what I would do, If I were in your situation. Tell him that as a friend, you understand needing to get laid. But as someone who cares about him, it means more than an orgasm. Tell him that you've been there for him, and he can trust you. Tell him that he needs to get his head straight, and figure out why they didn't work. make sure he understands that you're telling him this not only as a friend who doesn't want him to get hurt again, as an outsider looking in, and seeing problems... and also as a person who wants to see him happy.
Don't set YOURSELF up for disaster, either though. He needs to get his head straight, and you need to make sure that you're not a rebound. Give him time, and make sure he understands where you're coming from. But also understand that sometimes boys are blind, and they're very loyal, and if he's still inlove with her, you may have to wait until she's a major bitch for him to remember why they didn't work. Realize that you've always been there. and then get his ass out of there.
Unfortunately everything doesn't always work out like the movies, but I sincerly hope everything works for you. :]0