I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. I don't want us to break up for now, but in the long run I'm not 100% sure it'll work out because I know/expect we will differ in our opinions about religion, marriage, money, where to live, and children.
It's not like we have a lot of problems or arguments now because those topics aren't too relevant yet. Maybe I'm just being too paranoid about future problems. But is it fairer to the both of us to play it safe and break up, or take a risk and stay together, facing an unknown and uncertain future?
- StayVote A
- LeaveVote B
Most Helpful Guy
You both have to be willing to compromize on some things. You guys could make a relationship work with different views on religion as long as you aren't forcing your religion on the other and respecting the other's religious practices. As long as you don't have completely opposite religions like you're a hardcore catholic while he's a hardcore satanist or vice versa I think you guys could work.
Some guys have a more cautious view of marriage mainly because he's the one who's going to be taking more risk when it comes to divorce, alimoney, and losing custody of his children and child support.
As for money you're going to have to compromise, it's wise to save money and invest but you also need to realize that sometimes it's nice to treat yourself. Also it's okay to spend a bit on hobbies. As long as the bills are getting paid and you're saving well enough for retirement you should be good.
As for where to live you guys should choose a place that works best for both of your career paths. I know there are some places that I'd like to live but may hold off on due to them being too expensive or not really having a great economy or job market. This is somehting that you guys will have to compromise on.
Children it's relaly betwen you two but if you want children and he doesn't then you should think about that.
I picked stay because I think a lot of these things Are non-issues and the ones that are you guys should be able to talk them through and you both should be able to compromise on things. Like if her wants 2 kids and you want 3 then would having 2 instead of three really be that big of a deal? As for where to live you guys could find somewhere that works for both of you. Or heck you guys could move and take turns on choosing where to live.
I don't know your situation so talk it out. If he's doing 99% of the compromising and you can't meet him that one percent than break up. You both should be willing to compromise though.3
Most Helpful Girl
I think you need to be honest with yourself
My experience is that when you really love someone or want something, you'll find solutions rather than excuses
Maybe a part of you wants to leave for other reasons but is just using these practical reasons to conceal that?
All the best (: x3