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I have been hung up on my ex for the past four years. I thought it was because I still loved her and no on else could take her place! After going back to her three times, I have found that I can not give my love to someone like her that does not return her love to me. In my case I was just setting myself up for failure and further abuse! I deserve better than that, so I am moving on!
Good for you man. Why did you come back three times?
Death do us part!! That is why and frankly did not want to live with out her! I had some good friends get me away from her or I would not be talking to you today!! By the third time all of my blinders came off and I did not like what she had become!! Denial is a very bad thing! I know I have lived through it!!
Oh wow. You're here now, a survivor. Keep moving on.
One day at a time! Thanks!
i was somehow thinking about my ex for a long while after breaking up, was having him on my mind, because i felt it was kind of unfinished. i just ned to close the chapter, to resolve that and have that last talk. so I did. simply text him and he answered. we found out we felt the same about it and none of us said a thing. we talk it through and voila... im free again
free as a bird
yes. a bick stone fell of my heart.
OMG BIG sorry have no idea how it got there... lol
it's ok lol
After a year relationship she suddenly broke with me declaring she really wanted me in her life blah blah but as friends. We'd spent a week apart and she worked herself up into this. After this she wanted me to go to a concert with her 3 days later-told her no, I need time and didn't want to see her yet. She keeps texting me wanting to see me, saying she misses me and wants me in her life. Inviting me to parties, wanting to talk. I keep telling her I need distance right now. Its been 3 weeks since she broke with me-I do not know if this is some stupid game or she really wants to friend zone me. My response is "Minimal Contact Rule" - thoughtful minimal texts nicely saying I need some distance from you. While I'd love to get back with her my response works for both scenarios. If its a game or she's thought better then she has to pursue me; I know she feels my absence. If its not, its the best way to move on and heal. If its the latter then I probably will accept friend zone after 4-6 mos. because I truly do enjoy her. But my minimal contact rule serves both possible scenarios. Frankly she's somewhat High Maintenance although really special too-I might be better off without her.
The thing is I think she only wants your attention not your love. There's a difference. Yes you need to work on yourself. You better off without her.
Every time my on and off boyfriend of a year and a half broke up I was still hung up on him. The last time he broke up with me was around January/February and I still love him but he didn't want the drama anymore. I can't blame him but I do want him back. Now we work for the same company and I have to see him every once in a while. He hasn't spoken to me just smiled and waved. I know he'll never come back tho, which kills
That's the worst when you see them everyday. It's harder to get over them.
I miss the sex, sure. Even 20 years later. But I found out who she really was as a person after we split up. But I gotta say, I can't help comparing her with others sexually. And no, it's not healthy.
Dang, she must be an animal in bed lol
Over it, backstabbing, abusive and manipulative. It just feels great, it feels like I'm taking back the time I've lost, she sent me on a dark path... fuck fake friends.
hell yes! snakes belong in the jungle, not in your life
I'm still hung up on her but she has a boyfriend now... I hate getting flashback of us and the things we had together..
how long has it been and what have you been doing to deal with the pain and trying to get over her?
It been over 6 years.. I pretty much get high to relax my mind over her.
6 years? oh wow. what happened?
She got pregnant by someone and already has a kid
oh wow. :/ so why are you still hung up on her? Did you date someone else after her?
The sex she gave me was always good and we always had good interests in each other... I still date but it's nothing serious or a long relationship.
Nope, Im able to Literally move on within 24 hours, after that you got no hope of us getting back together as I've already processed everything emotionally and left all the baggage behind
within 24 hours? did you dump them or they did? I think my last ex did that to me. How?
I'm out a very emotional person to start with so I just analyse what went wrong in the relationship and if there were nothing I could have done to save it I just move on, if I'm the reason I try to apologise then move on. I've only ever got back with someone once but it wasn't the same and the connection just wasn't there
I want to do that so bad. I need to process things like that because I am a very emotional person too but it takes me a while to get it out of my system. Well good for you. :)
Any time you need to chat you're welcome to message me, I'll try to help as best I can
24 hours...what do you use like a tear pump?
I'm not a cryer, not really an emotional person. Plus, a lot has happened in my life so I've learned to get over things and just move on
false i wish i can move on within 24 hours too like it never even happened but it sounds impossible for me
its impossible for every average human being so the best yyou could do right now is keep yourself busy
false I know someone who said they are over their girlfriend in a matter of days. he claimed she was his first love. lies :D
Yeah, it's not something you can "just do" I learned to move on as I had no choice earlier in life, in a way I wish I wasn't like this as it makes me appear cold hearted as I have little empathy and find face to face social interaction difficult/awkward
there's this pic where you see how guys vs girls get over a breakup, so on the first week the guy is happy but the girl is crying but after a month its the complete opposite 😂
it hurts to know if a former love easily got over us like we meant nothing or little to them.
false is that even true? lol i dont think so
I know ow it austin powers but this is pretty much me after a break up https://youtu.be/4ONo_cA6qAU
I'm about 95% over her. I'm going to contact her in five months after I'm finished losing weight, and if it doesn't work out at that point, then we'll be done permenantly.
why 5 months later? What if she thinks you are totally over her? why that long?
That's when I'm totally-done losing weight.
what if she is already over you by then?
She's already over me now. She's the one who broke up with me. But, if she ever felt anything towards me, then she'll feel something then. Besides, she has a boyfriend right now, so I have to give them a few months to break up.
I am. It's been 25 years since I was dumped. 24 years since I last saw her.
Time to move on I'd say
@red324 easy to say mate.
uh, I was for a long time. But I realized that she wasn't really good for me or what I was looking for in the end so I let it go. that said, I have chased an ex before to get her back.
How long did we're you hung up on her for and why?
oh, maybe a year? and because she was witty, gorgeous, fun and I was the one who ended it (one way or another) . oh and I lost my virginity to her, so there's that. but I moved on because I knew she would act like a child her entire life and I wanted a partner not someone I would have to babysit.
question: if a guy lost his v card to this gorgeous woman, she got issues though and he broke up with her too. They had a serious fun romantic relationship. But he told her, he's over her a week after he dump her. Should she believe him? coz I read the responses here and most take a while to get over their ex girlfriend.
well, either he's hurting too and trying to push her away for his own defense (I've done that) or there's more to the story and he's not being totally honest.
He's lying about him being over her? Ya he did say he had to protect himself from her. They were on and off. This time looks like it's for good. No one just gets over someone that quick if the love was real
well that's the big question, was it? only he knows.
if the love was even real?
Well, I’m not, it was long time ago, but every time it took me long time to get over it.
Why did it take long for you to get over her? Who broke up with who? What was the cause of breakup?
I don’t know, it was just pain, for months and years. I was way more invested in that than her. In the first case I ended it up, because it just didn’t work anymore, but the fact is, that the relationship gradually decayed for moths. And she just took the comfort of not doing anything while she was getting together with another guy. In second relationship, it was just some message from her, or maybe from someone else, that she is with someone else now. It’s long time ago, I don’t remember. The last one…it was her, I would say. But also, it’s 4 years ago. She has changed.In pretty much all the cases, I knew, how it will end up. There was this voice in back of my head, which whispered (the song and its lyrics, which broth you two together, will be perfect description of the end of this relationship. And then it was. In case of my first), how thigs will go.And it happened recently, with my last crush. “Dude, and what if you’ll see her just this once and then never again?” Yep. Exactly.
I'm not hung up but I often wonder about how she thought then and how she'd be and think now.
Things happened rather fast then. There was no real closure.
It's only been 4 months but I still love her like crazy, she still loves me but wants to move on
have you been reaching out?
were keeping in touch at uni, were going to meet up but we've just had an argument and stopped again
I was for like 2 years. I liked her a lot. Learned a good lesson.
2 years? How long was the relationship?
Not long enough to warrant such a lengthy recovery.
It's been almost two years we're still friends and hang out but I still love her and want her back
two years? so what's stopping you?
I guess I just love her too much to move on
Has she moved on? What did you do to get her back? have you reached out?
She's gone on dates had sex and stuff like that but no relationship. Yeah she knows she just said she's not ready for the commitment and a relationship right now
who broke up with who? You'd still take her after hoing herself to other guys? oh wow
She broke up with me. We're not together so it's not like she's doing anything wrong
We still spend a lot of time together and do a lot of stuff together except we don't have sex or anything
You never dated anybody else after you guys broke up?
@leader no I haven't
You get hung up on ex's, when you're attention starved. Ex's only bring drama. Find your attention elsewhere
Im over it but scars are left
Scars remind us the past is real. :/
Well yes, are u trying to get over one or trying to get back with one
the first one
Hmmm I know the cure for that
PM me. :)
good for you lol
never had an ex
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