I know this guy is married, we like each other and I don't see why we can't have a physical relationship. I know he's not going to leave his wife, I wouldn't want him too because that's not what I want, others may say that I have no self respect and he doesn't respect or love me if we did. My view sometimes in life we should do things to fulfill our desires and not worry about moral obligations when it comes to sex? Please share your honest opinion on my situation.
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I, myself, have my own set of standards I follow due to my own personal experiences. My philosophy in life revolves around "Treat others as you want to be treated". Being on both sides of the cheating spectrum - I became ashamed of my prior actions when confronted with the emotional wreckage that comes with being cheated on. I wouldn't do it again because I personally know how much it hurts the unknown party. But that was only learned because I experienced it - not because others told me it was wrong.
You have every right to have whatever experiences you choose to - even if it hurts others. But in doing so, you also must accept the responsibility of your actions. Those consequences would be yours to bear. Although there is a man involved just as culpable for his actions - they are not entwined with your decisions; you own your choices. In turn, you cannot be judgmental if those same actions are against yourself - I feel you forfeit those rights when you made the same choices in the past.
Cheating hurts. That's the bottom line. I don't think it's a moral obligation but an integral obligation to avoid causing unnecessary pain to someone innocent.
Like I've said, I've been across the line and back and even now feel my moral platitudes ring false. Once you've made the decision to jeopardize an innocent's life - there is no recourse for that betrayal.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE