okay so basically my boyfriend of a year and a half just broke up with me we didn't talk for a few days, today I had a mental break down and non stopped texted him! he told me that in order to move on that he doesn't want to text me much anymore .. but usually when you don't contact the person for a while they will start to miss you right? .. why in the world is he saying that not talking will make him get over me .. ugh please help :(
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I think you're missing the point.
The no contact rule isn't for him... its for YOU.
Deciding to be in a relationship is a life changing process that needs to be thought about carefully. How can you carefully analyze your relationship if you're hysterical (and having mental breakdowns)?
Here's my advice. Take a few weeks to yourself. Go to the gym, go shopping, get new makeup and do something that makes you feel positive. Re-invent yourself. Take all this new time (since you won't be spending time with your ex-boyfriend) and do something that you always wanted!
Talk to other guys that find you beautiful and take time to rebuild your confidence. (Try to avoid hooking up with lots of guys though that will only make you feel worse... especially if you still have feelings for your ex)
Wait for a MONTH to pass... at least a month. And if you're stil dying to contact him.., do it.
But remember NO CONTACT MEANS NO CONTACT! Erase him out of your phone, erase him off facebook, hide all the pictures you have of him (don't throw them out), and resist the urge to contact him. And if he calls don't pick up.
It's gonna be hard but you need to do this for your own good.
We've all been there before... trust me