My ex and I dated for 8 months. The relationship was really good, we had a good balance of everything. And then one day, for no apparent reason he stopped talking to me, within which I tried to talk to him but he told me his exams were on, so I didn't bother him apart from wishing him luck for the papers. A month later he broke up with me. Again, no reason. He told me something vague, like he didn't want to get married or something (I had never even asked him!). Then he rambled on saying we're not compatible, which was again crap. Though I am sure he wasn't dating anybody else. I thought he's immature and went into complete NC. He sent me a few forwarded messages over the next few months, I responded only to first 2-3 and stopped responding to others. I removed him from my messenger and social networking lists. And then, he and his friends start commenting some idiotic stuff and laughing loudly whenever I would walk past them. And then he starts showing me an attitude.
Then, I happened to finish with my program and we go separate ways so he knows he's not going to bump into me.
Now, a year later he sends me a message asking me if it'd be too much to ask to be friends with me.
I don't get it. And I don't know if I must respond to it or not. I do really like him, but I don't know if this is just a power game, in which case I'm better off without him.
What are the odds he's realized we were good together? Or is he just being an asshole? Or worse, for a booty call?
Other details : He'd sometimes try to put me down by talking of some random sh*t which he knew I wouldn't know of and then make fun of me. And at other times, he'd be a gem. Weird I know.
Anyway, any help?
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He doesn't deserve anything from you. Basically this guy disregarded you without any thought to your feelings. He feels like he can just drop you whenever he wants to, and then pick you back up when he feels like it. He's not a good guy. You deserve better but guess what a guy is never going to treat you better if you keep settling for worse. You don't have to do anything for him.0