We were together for about 4 years and tbh it was a nasty break up. I chased her for months just to find out she had a new guy not even a month later.
I don't really have any ambitions to be friends with her but on the other hand I'd like to meet/talk with her again just to see if I'm really over her or not.
This could end in to things:
~I see I'm over her and life goes on.
~Old emotions come up and it ends in a disaster
I'm not sure if I should take the risk or not. Any advice?
Most Helpful Girl
If it put you through a crazy amount of heartbreak which sounds like it, it's probably best to think twice if it's really worth it for you. If she was with someone a month later, yet she suddenly wants to be friends now maybe it's just convenient in her timing? Then again I don't know her personally obviously lol but if someone were to do that to their ex, it doesn't sound really trustworthy to be "friends" now. I think she's just got nothing to do and honestly you deserve better than just to be someone's entertainment. As well as keep in mind words are just words, as cliche as it is actions really do matter and count.
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Most Helpful Guy
'' but on the other hand I'd like to meet/talk with her again just to see if I'm really over her or not.''
That's a very common mistake. She ditched you, you chased, she had a new boyfriend quicker than you could blow your nose. Block, delete, move on.
The bottom line is this. She knows that any man with self respect wouldn't meet up with her, or communicate. If you do meet, regardless of what happens, there will be no respect. The only question is whether this lack of self respect, and respect is subconscious, or consciously noticed on her part.