What advice can I give my sister?

Won't go into full details, but she's calling off her engagement, and I don't know what to say to comfort her or anything. We're all happy about her decision (her fiancee is a toxic, lazy, pessimistic person) but does anyone have any experience with this stuff? Any advice so I can comfort her better? She still loves him, but had to do this for herself.


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Most Helpful Guy

  • Ill share a muslim way of thinking with you just because I dont have any other way

    Look at the bright side , who knows that it was a good deed. Maybe her decision will lead her to a better future outcome

    As for your sister still loving that guy. The reason why she loves him is because she sees a good person in him who is not lazy and pessimistic. She wanted to change him. Thats cute.

    She should talk to that guy about how she feels if it is the im telling. Maybe he will get back to his senses and change.

    Maybe they will marry after the change. Maybe they both finds someone better but appreciate the time they had. Especially tje words she spoke because it could change his life

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  • Here's what you do. Keep her busy so that she can keep her mind off of the broken engagement. Get involved in hobbies together, now is the time to really get some sister bonding time :)

    Have movie nights, call to check in on her and offer her to come stay with you if needed.

    Help her move out of the joint house (if there is one). Offer to send out an email or call people who were invited if they already invited people to the wedding, and then let them know it has been called off. Basically do what you can to take some of the pressure off of her.

    She will still love him of course. But just as she fell in love with this guy, she will fall in love again :)

    Be supportive of her and whatever her needs are. Go get mani/pedi's together, do things that are fun and keep her mind off of the broken engagement.

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  • I don think she'll require your support now. Calling off an engagement requires courage and she has done it. That means she has judged the reasons well and working with a clear vision.
    However, in future, she may face trouble getting into a relationship or, she may unknowingly fall for another relationship soon to fill the void this incident is gonna leave in her life. It's normal. You may want to advice her then.

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  • You didn't say how old your sister is, and it matters.

    If those of you who love your sister know her fiance is bad, then let her know she is doing the right thing.

    My brother married an idiot liberal-Socialist (not the smart kind). No one in the family liked her and we couldn't understand why he would. Many years later, he announced they were getting a divorce. All of us cheered. He has been dating several women since then and we like all of them.

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  • be there for her let her talk don't try to give her the perfect answers but the ones you would give if she ask but a listening ear will work wonders

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  • You don't really need to give advice, just be there for her

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  • you should tell her what you just told us that you're happy about the decision because he didn't seem like he was right for you and then list the reasons why you think that

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  • "you've got one shot tonight is your chance to blow opportunities come once in a lifetime"

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  • Tell her your phone is always on.

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  • Time For A Girls Week Out! Take Her And Her Close Friend Far Away From Family, Friends and Phone Call - This Is THE thing To Get Her into Awesomeness

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  • give her time she's done the right thing maybe a gift

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  • Just gift her something as a token of appreciation and plan a vacation 😅

    Enjoy bechlorhood

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  • Remind her why she is living him and tell her that kids wouldn't develop well with such a father.

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  • Just tell her you love her and respect her decision

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  • Don't try to give advice. She needs you to listen and support her. She had to make a tough decision that was hers alone to make. Stfu and hug her. Nothing more. If she wants to vent, talk it out, let her do that but keep your mouth mostly shut and your ears open!

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  • It's hard to say other then to be there for her

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  • jst try to keep her busy all day nd find a better guy for her

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  • Get her a male stripper and encourage her to suck his dick

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What Girls Said 6

  • Look you can't dwell on things that prevent you from moving forward. Simply put there's no fix no magic wand that will make it all better. But no one says you have to stop loving... If you miss them miss them... If you love them, love them... Send them light and love and keep moving... Do not stay stagnant.

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  • It's better to rip that band aid off now than marry and live in hell with devil.

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  • You should take her on a crazy night out to have some fun, nothing is better comfort than a night out around the town without bringing up the elephant in her emotional atmosphere

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  • Just be there for her and let her know you are available :)

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  • You should probably give her space and let her decide for herself what she wants. But if she opens up to you or asks you for help, then you should give her advice.

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  • The best thing u can do is... DONT talk to her like she is a victim, talk to her in a normal voice, if she wants to talk about it, talk to her about it, so she feels better, then go do fun stuff togetjer, try to go out with her as much as possible

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