Won't go into full details, but she's calling off her engagement, and I don't know what to say to comfort her or anything. We're all happy about her decision (her fiancee is a toxic, lazy, pessimistic person) but does anyone have any experience with this stuff? Any advice so I can comfort her better? She still loves him, but had to do this for herself.
Most Helpful Guy
Ill share a muslim way of thinking with you just because I dont have any other way
Look at the bright side , who knows that it was a good deed. Maybe her decision will lead her to a better future outcome
As for your sister still loving that guy. The reason why she loves him is because she sees a good person in him who is not lazy and pessimistic. She wanted to change him. Thats cute.
She should talk to that guy about how she feels if it is the im telling. Maybe he will get back to his senses and change.
Maybe they will marry after the change. Maybe they both finds someone better but appreciate the time they had. Especially tje words she spoke because it could change his life1
Most Helpful Girl
Here's what you do. Keep her busy so that she can keep her mind off of the broken engagement. Get involved in hobbies together, now is the time to really get some sister bonding time :)
Have movie nights, call to check in on her and offer her to come stay with you if needed.
Help her move out of the joint house (if there is one). Offer to send out an email or call people who were invited if they already invited people to the wedding, and then let them know it has been called off. Basically do what you can to take some of the pressure off of her.
She will still love him of course. But just as she fell in love with this guy, she will fall in love again :)
Be supportive of her and whatever her needs are. Go get mani/pedi's together, do things that are fun and keep her mind off of the broken engagement.1