So, in short, I found out my boyfriend had been cheating on me with a girl on our university's cheerleading team, and now he's dumped me to be with her. The last thing he said to me was "You're only good for one thing anyway..." and this really hurt me. As in, I can't get over the fact that he said that. It's seriously made me question my self-worth and re-evaluate whether I'm worthy of love. I'll admit I hadn't been as attentive to him these past few months because I've been working towards getting into my dream study abroad program in Italy and learning Italian. I admit I don't have a cheerleader's body or athletic ability. I admit there were things about myself I could've worked on, but he had plenty of flaws as well!!! I have absolutely no idea how to recover my self-esteem now. I have no motivation to do anything, and right now is when I need motivation the most...
Most Helpful Guy
First off... I'm really sorry you had to go through that, though I'm the other hand I'm glad you're rid of him. While you may have liked or even loved him, he didn't love you in return and for your sake I'm glad you didn't end up in that relationship for any longer than you were.
Second, people try to degrade others to justify treating them poorly "she's just good for sex no one else could REALLY love her so I'm no different than anyone else." He said that to hurt you for the sake of hurting you. Not a word of it is true. The very fact that you're dedicated to and are working towards your dream goes to show you have determination, a sense of drive, and dedication. Nothing that happened was your fault as far as I can tell. And you've proven simply in the fact that you acknowledge you were more distant that you are a sincere person, to be loved and treasured. If any tell you otherwise... well they're lying to you. You're special and hopefully there will always be people who see that in you. ☺1
Most Helpful Girl
Honey, you're a human being. No human being is only good for sex. You have a brain, you can think and do things. You are good for whatever you want to be good for.
Look, at the end of the day, he cheated. Everyone knows cheaters are the scum of the earth right down there with pedophiles and people who hit old ladies. He's a bad person, anyway. Why would you take the opinion of someone like that, seriously?
Just realise that you made a mistake by being with such an asshole. You're free now to focus on you and to find out all the wonderful things you're good at, most definitely more than sex.1