What to do if a husband finds his wife hid her threesomes past from her husband and also kept those people in her friends circle as friends?

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What to do if a husband finds his wife hid her threesomes past from her husband and also kept those people in her friends circle as friends?

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Without mentioning what special relation she had with all of them before marriage and what they shared among them? After learning all this how will he be able to face them in soceity having known they fully used n banged his wife without commitment and even his wife gave them all freely which she may not give to her husband after commitment?

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juicyjessie · Answer 1 · 2017-09-13T20:10:17Z

Anything like hiding some material fact that might have made the husband not want to marry her is almost as bad as cheating. She hid something that might have caused him to reject her.

The only thing to do is reject her now, even if married. It is a total deal breaker, unless you are VERY forgiving!

HGG3805 · Answer 2 · 2017-09-13T20:22:22Z

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Why is this a problem? Cut her some slack. We all do things that others may not approve of. Does that make us a bad person unworthy of whatever? Of course not. Some people have sex for fun. What a concept.
You expect a commitment to have sex with someone? Sex with someone you know should be better but you don't have to have them sign a commitment letter.

Yes, that would be a surprise to learn that about my wife. It would make me appreciate her more though. And I'd talk to her about what she liked and see if she would be willing to do it again with me.

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So to have sex with any person you know n threesome too is alright, n should be appreciated rather, then its also alright to have sex after marriage to have sex with anyone she knows, why would a good thing suuden turn to bad after marriage. So its alright unless she knows them

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HGG3805

Maybe I am not understanding what you are trying to say. The husband found out after they were married that his wife had participated in a threesome before they were married. And the husband happens to know the other participants. And he is having a problem with lack of this disclosure pre-marriage? Am I close?

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Yes you got the question right. Is it alright to have hid al details n deny an answer to the husband and make him feel humiliated whenever he happen to meet her exes who might jokingly or seriously mock him and make fun of him being a loser in their friend's circle?

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HGG3805

Obviously you have a problem with this knowledge and yes had she known that would be a problem with you, she should have disclosed it. But here you are after the fact. This is not the end of the world or life as you know it. Or it doesn't have to be. She didn't betray you. She did not disclose her past to you. The past is history. It is here and now that we need to deal with.
If you love your wife, forgive her. This does not have to be the end of things. How you deal with this is your choice. I doubt if her prior partners think less of you or her. I would be envious that she married you were I to be one of those partners. You should forgive her, you don't have to forget, but you can forgive her. Either love her or leave her. Don't make her pay for something that is a problem you have.

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Nice geneorous reply, thanks. But how can he forget or get over it? N how can one say that they (exes) may not think less of him or make fun as now a days chances of bad is more possible than chances of goid thiught? N as threesomes are just used sex not love related sex so is'nt it possible they most probably enjoyed her than other possibilities

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HGG3805

Sex is sex. Love just makes it better. What If she said she was in love with the other two parties? Would that make it more acceptable? I'm not serious. Don't be so hung up on this whole deal. We all do things that others may not approve of. This is only the big deal that you make it. I am sure she has no interest in making a big deal out of it. You should see this as an opportunity with a cool lady. I have had those conversations trying to convince my lady to consider a 3 sum with me and another lady. That initial discussion is sort of a mine field. Your lady has already been there

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Yes love is more acceptable than sex? Coz if she loved someone and not married him than its possible that she came to kmow that person is not a lovable or may be they even cheated her so she will not go to them anymore but onlyvsexual relationship is dangerous coz it may create situation that she (wife) might think she used to get good sex from her previous partners but she can"t marry them coz they were not financially rich, but the sex was definitely better so there's a chance that if she does'nt get enough good sex from her husband she may approach them for sex hiddenly, but won't leave the husband coz he is a good provider. So then the wife will be benefitted, the exes will also be benefitted as they would get free sex from her hiddenly even after her marriage, but the only loser will be the husband, who will have to bear her expenses n provide stability to her n inspite of it he will be the one who will get cheated hiddenly.

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sk2022 · Answer 3 · 2017-09-13T20:16:29Z

first know all the truth. Maybe they blackmailing her for keep it secret. If not then divorce I think

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