Ok so me and my boyfriend have been together for 3years now I'm 25 and he's 31 with two kids he had with other women before us of course so when we first got together I explained to him that I was going through a lot of stress due to the death of my mother I also told him my father was never in my life and my family treats me like shit so one of the most important things to me is building my own family I told him I wanted a child around the age of 27 just to make things clear for him in the beginning so since we've been together I've been helping him raise his kids one of them I became like a full time step mother too because I left my job and decided to help him with his kids anyway now that we're three years in he's been talking about how he doesn't want anymore kids to others and he's told me which makes my blood boil because he knew from day one I wanted my own child he says me wanting a child a 27 puts a lot of pressure on him and I can understand that I doesn't have to be as soon as I turn 27 but for him to say he doesn't want anymore period after I've help him with the ones he already has is a real slap in the face... what am I suppose to do raise other women's kids for the rest of my life? I feel like he doesn't care about my feelings so I broke up with him... what do you guys think?
Most Helpful Guy
I mean you're not wrong... but would you rather he'd had a kid with you just out of respect? Having a kid is such a huge step so if both sides aren't in 100% then the safe option is to hold off until they are. If you view it as a sort of "you owe me" situation then it doesn't sound like it was the right time for a child anyway. For me, if I truly loved someone and they weren't ready for a child then id just accept that. So if having a kid is more important than your love for him then yes, I think breaking up was the best option.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
I can understand your frustration. I'd feel really used and disrespected as well. If he wasn't happy with you wanting kids, he should've told you from Day 1 instead of fucking LEADING YOU ON. That's selfish of him. I don't care if other people tell you you're being the selfish one here but I honestly think you should leave
him. he's the one who didn't zip his fucking pants with other women and now has expecting some other woman to take on the "burden" I'm sorry but you're better off without this asshole.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE