someone else asked this but I'm asking in a different way. how do you know he's just keeping you around (not as booty call necessarily) but just as backup girl when things don't work out, he has you ... how do you know he's really over the relationship and truly wants friendship? or if he's playing some control game and really wants you back but playing hard to get? true story. no joke. not saying I want him back, but, I am also curious if guys TRULY like having their exes as and friends and WHY.
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i am in the same boat I want my ex back she has told me all kinds of things but I know she's seeing someone else..no how I feel she just wants to keep me there as back up. she know I want her back and has told me the best way is to just be her friend right now and that she does not want a boyfriend right now. She is allways calling me asking what I am doing she will come over for a little bit and then leaves. Now here is my thing if she doesn't want to be with me and knows I still want her then why does she come around? I think once your involved with someone it is too much to try to just be friends thoese feelings will allways be there and one of you will be jealous at the other and visa a versa at different times. I don't want my ex as a friend I either want to be with her or I don't want to hang around her say hi every once in a while is OK but that is it. Now at the same time there are the feelings of true love so that tends to mess with not pushing them away completely. Just me and my feelings about what I am going through. any advice it would be great.0