Alright, so, my boyfriend dumped me almost two months ago. He started dating a new girl IMMEDIATELY (he is 15 years older than her, she is only 21). Not even a week later. I was horrible and still talked to him daily, texting him, but he was always distant.
Then, I waited a few weeks, and gradually started to text with him again, and he started to warm up to me again. He joked with me again, and laughed with me again. Then, today, suddenly he started to vent about his new girlfriend to me. They have been together for a little less than two months now.
I want to know if there is any chance he might want me back, ever? Or is he just venting to me because he only sees me as a friend now? I find it odd that he is venting to me about the same kind of issues that he and I had.
Please help me! Thank you!
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I have to wonder why you would even want him back! I'm in your shoes, I want my ex back but if he started dating a new girl right after and talked to me about it, WOW I would cut him off!
BUT it sounds like you want him back, so I will let you in on some advice that I got from some "ex back" books:
- first, he who cares least controls the relationship...dont let him know you care! be friendly, but don't be there for him! you cannot be his emotional support...he won't want you back if you are always available to him and if you are willing to put up with his crap!
- DO NOT text or call him first...he has to come to you. when he does text or call you, take a while to respond, and make it obvious how busy you are!
- go out and have fun, and make sure he knows about it! this includes going on dates (even fakes ones lol) and make sure he knows about it - like making your MSN status about a date or something...he needs to know you aren't sitting around waiting for his call!
- another important tip these books talk about is that almost all rebound relationships fail, so take comfort in that...another thing - people want what they can't have, when he realizes he doesn't have you anymore, he will want you and not the rebound girl he has!
Good luck! and keep me posted! :)1