Thank you for your honest answer! I really appreciate! No, not a nice thing to do, but it's a good thing you realized that it's not okay and corrected your behavior and are honest with yourself and able to talk about it :)I think a friend of mine is maybe doing this to his girlfriend and trying to drag me in the middle of the mess (as the third party), I'm not sure, but that's how it seems to me! :O What made you wanna do so? How did you think it'd go?
It’s okay, it is very freeing to be able to share my experience. That isn’t fair on you or the girlfriend. If your friends with her maybe you should tell her about your theory. Don’t let your friend use you as a reason to break up with his girlfriend. Well he is my baby daddy so the pressure was on about taking the next step and I didn’t want to hurt him but I am not ready to take that next step and I don’t believe that long term relationships should be based on a accidental baby. I still see him as a close friend, maybe in the future I might want to be with him again but I just need time to find myself. So naturally at the time the only thing that came to me was that, I didn’t want it to be real so I choose my best friend. Honestly I didn’t think that I cared as much as I did and I wanted to leave things on a good note but considering the situation I knew it wasn’t possible but I was so sure that he wouldn’t be upset about it since “he cheated”
That's actually very interesting! Sucks though it had to be that way, but I get you :/I'm not friends with the girl and I think the guy might really be interested in me. I'm trying to stay out of their drama, but I have a feeling he's trying to bring me in the middle of it and get me to be part of the break up. I see it from the way he acts and makes a huge deal about us "3" and from the way she acts towards me at the moment. I feel like he's trying to make me be the "other girl" that he's known longer than her and that comes back to the picture and fights for him etc. He doesn't say anything but keeps pushing it that way. It's very much forced and clearly a show and he's tried to build the conflict dozen times already, almost every time I'm in any contact with him basically 🤔 That's why I was wondering if people really do this.. I'm good at reading people but this is the first time I've been in a situation like this and I'm not sure what to think or do!
Yeah, thanks. It really does but as they say God works in mysterious ways. It’s nice to have somebody who gets me. Your friend seems to be using every opportunity he gets to make it seem like you are the “other women” like you said. I suggest trying to minimise your time with him until he breaks up with her. That way he hasn’t got the chance to involve you with the whole ordeal. Sadly this does happen but it doesn’t work too well, in this case being the “bad guy” isn’t the case it is most likely to do with dealing with the break up, maybe he believes that if *he* gets dumped then that is the end of it. No messy after work. It is not fair of him to put you in the middle either way the main thing to do is not to get involved as much as he tries to get you into it.
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Really? Why? What's the gain? How did it go? (I'm not trying to break up with anyone, just to be clear :D )
He wasn't interested in the relationship anymore and it ended very badly
I can imagine! Why wouldn't he just break up with her himself? Didn't want to be the one to tell the bad news?
He was young and stupid. This happened when he was 16. He's 22 now
Significant Other, partner, girlfriend, boyfriend...
Ugh sorry And ur answer is sometimes yes because no one wants to get his hands dirty u know..