So, I'll cut to the chase.
My girl-friend dumped her boyfriend(they were together for 3 years) for me, I met her while she was still with him and we kissed. One week later she broke up with him for me. We have spoken about why she "cheated on him" and she told me their relationship was really bad, she had no feelings etc for him at all.
In the start, he called her and was really sad, she spoke with him and so on to calm him down (yeah, I get it). But after 2-3 weeks they broke contact (When we went public with our relationship). I guess he moved on a bit because he started to date a girl.
When my Girlfriend saw this on facebook, they started to talk again. (She contacted once then he started the contact again). So my Girlfriend decided to remove him from facebook, she did. Got really sad over it, cried and so on (He was her first real boyfriend, almost first everything, not virginity tho). But now after about a week, he added her again on facebook and she accepted and their contact has started again.
It's not like they call each other often, it's mostly over facebook chat and she always tells me when he contacts her (when I'm at her place, sometimes she tells me they spoke.. but I can never be sure). But right now, in fact we had planned to watch a movie and so on together.. but he started to talk to her and they have been talking for about 40min now.
I have told her I don't care because if they did anything, I would leave her right away.. a kiss on the cheek would be enough for me to leave her (its her ex, c'mon!)
So my question is, should I be worried and prepare for the worse or am I just being paranoid?
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I think you're being extremely paranoid. You'd leave her if her ex kissed her on the cheek? You sound like a 14 year old boy!
Many people still have friendships with their exes, it's perfectly normal. They were together for three years, obviously that creates a bond, and it just feels strange to throw all of that away just because the relationship is no longer there.
Until recently I was still in touch with my ex, my boyfriend knew it, and he was fine with it. I've told him clearly I have no feelings for my ex except for the fact that we have a lot of shared memories, and it just isn't a problem.
My advice: let her have her freedom and get over it.0