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That is utterly ridiculous. Her parents are adults, she doesn't get have an intervention with them. It sounds like a mutual decision, not one of them running off to pursue some fantasy. No one gets to be included in the decision making besides the adults involved, and it sounds like the decision has already been made.
i so much agree with you. staying in a bad marriage unhappy just ruins the kids. it's sad that both of your parents wasted their life thinking they did it the good way :(if they divorce you would have had 2 happy people in your life to support you
exactly and way better examples how to handle a relationship
do you remember what did you think when they were mid of divorce procedure? n some years later?
I don't, I only remember feeling guilty and the big fight before they separated.
wow twice! what was your age when these happened?
once I was like a year old and the second one was when I was 16 or 17
how did you handle it?
pretty okay tbh, the first one I was too young, the second one I was too careless, I never really liked the second guy anyway, only real problem is that I never had a dad to teach me how to do man stuff so I had to learn by myself but it's okay
:o your biological dad didn't keep contact with you? that's sad 😶thanks for answering
I can't open the rest of your answer, and it isn't as bad as it sounds I promise. it was mainly caus emt mom wouldn't let me see him since the reason they got divorce was cause he was abusive. later on I started hanging out with him a little but I never got the grip on it, so I keep my distance
ah! ofc that way it's totally different (i get that can't see full text bug too. on the site it never happens)
yea that bug really sucks, I'm a phone only user however. and yea, it's a tad different, my dad has changed however which makes me very happy, still not a close relationship tho
What this guy said.
you suggest to cut emotions toward parents? o. O
Depends on how close you were and if kids are involved. Depends on their level of comfort and what the situation was and who wanted the divorce.
ah, it's about the kids point of view ^^ adults most of the times weren't emotionally into each other at the time of divorce already. if only one side wants the divorce the other one has to get over with it, what sux, but its better to get separated when the other one doesn't loves you
Well, if you all have children you need a good working relationship with your ex and in laws. But, the sooner you cut the emotional cord the easier it is to move on.
mind to share what was your age when they got divorced?
@LunaJ I was 17.
what did you feel?
I agree with you but don't want to; I think that it also depends on your desire satisfactionism. Maybe love is the number one thing that you desire and provides satisfaction--those are the people that I'd trust most to be in a long-term relationship with, the "romantics" if you will.
I actually disagree. I think love implies forever and we were designed with monogamy in mind, even if it is a challenge.
@Reach500 Well said young lady!
@Reach500 Except that isn't absolutely true; there have been plenty of studies done on primitive societies and examples of polyamory have been discovered time and time again.If our primitive or innate goal is survival and reproduction, then having multiple intimate relationships makes most sense. We are only absolutely designed with survival in mind.
Exactly. It's a fanciful thought for a "one and only" but as life expectancy increases that will be seen less and less.
So true. I was used as a pawn. I don't think they'll be invited to my wedding if I ever have one.
uh.. that's the horrible. I'm divorced with kid. but me n my ex have good relationship. we divorced only cos we didn't share the future plans n this way was better for everyone. now our little girl has 2 place to call home.
Well sure. But I know children no divorced parents and they use the child as leverage.
I was used as leverage big time.
yeah. being adult doesn't necessary means that you know what you're doing 😦
not all divorce goes this way