I'm sorry to have to ask anonymously. This girl I dated for years treated me with a lot of contempt, (yes, I know I have my own issues for allowing that for so long) cheated on me towards the end, and broke up with me in an extremely disrespectful way, leaving me a bloody wreck of a human being. Basically used and abused me. I'm healing now, but you can imagine that I've been having to deal with an unreal amount of indignance and anger over how I was treated. I haven't tried to express my anger to her (she'd only show more contempt anyway) or take any sort of revenge, although God knows I've wanted to. I never would, except that it's very likely that I'll see her again, sooner or later - plenty of mutual friends. We'll be at the same party or get-together eventually. I've wondered how I'll react when that happens. What I hope I'll have the guts to do is throw a glass of cold water in her face and leave. Don't know if I'd say anything. The question is; is that totally wrong of me? God knows she deserves much worse than that. I don't know if throwing water on someone is legally assault - so obviously in that case I couldn't, and would have to come up with words to say that would have the same effect. Would you do this if you were me? If you were my friend, would you realize she must deserve it, or look down on me for having done something stupid?
(I anticipate that someone will say that I should just ignore her when I see her, and just act like she isn't there. I've thought about that a lot, and I can't do it. I really can't. It's either do something/say something, or just plain leave. And I don't want to leave, either.)
Most Helpful Girl
If I was your friend and knew exactly what she did to you I would join you but throwing the whole table but we have to face the reality this would not make you feel better because this isn't the best form of revenge. what you should do and that is the best form of revenge be a hunk that girls cannot stop looking at. I mean talk the talk and walk the walk. In other works not just the physical app are acne but the personality and the sharpness in your tongue that would say you are a loser for not being able to keep this hunk in your arms because now I got them girl gawking at my awesomeness. that my friend is the best satisfaction you can ever have from a narcissist. cause god knows and sees everything and you will meet the love of your life soon but you got to get through some painful stuff first like her and getting over her.1
Most Helpful Guy
My only question to you as a friend is that would it make you feel any better, take away all your pain, heal you inside if you did what you wanted to do? If your answer is yes that's the magic pill, then do it. But if the answer is how can it remove all the damage she has done, then I'd say work on yourself. Learn to let go of the pain. Heal within.1
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