I met this girl this summer whose amazing. We really hit it off and we both felt like we connected. I'm not the most sensitive guy and I'm careful when it comes to relationships. We've met a couple of times since we met and she's told me she thinks I'm really cute and sweet and I've told her the same. Her family and friends really like me too and have been saying stuff like oh he's cuter than her ex. Now the only problem is that when I met her her ex recently broke up with her and she didn't know why he did. I could tell it was really hard on her and I never said much about him or asked about him but she would mention him a couple of times. Now I usually play things smart and normally I would've avoided this situation because she's carrying some baggage, but I've never met a girl like this and I've never felt this way about someone in a long time. I thought in the beginning she was just using me as a rebound or someone to make her feel better but she's told me she really likes me. Now her ex is starting to talk to her again. I haven't said anything to her about it and she says she thought it was a good thing at first but then she doesn't know now. I don't know what to do. I have a bad feeling about this because she likes me and could like her ex still also. So far I've been playing it cool. Giving her space and stuff and not asking or talking about it. My question is whether to not acknowledge it and keep playing it cool or confront her about it and see who she has feelings for the most. I know if I confront her it will bother her and put a lot of stress on her and making me out to be the bad guy, but I'm not gonna let this situation affect me and I'm going to stand my ground. I can't be mad at her either because we aren't necessarily dating yet, but I know for sure she sees me as more than a friend. Although the way I'm acting now and the way I see the situation unfolding I can see us as becoming friends with benefits. What should I do though? Confront her or pretend like it doesn't phase me and be confident?
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Don't confront her, but you should probably make a comment on it. Start out with "You know how much I like you, right?" or "I like you so much more, then he does." or something. Let her know you'll wait till she's ready (will you?).
Make sure she knows how you ---feel---. And let her know you will NOT be her safety, backup, or someone used for self esteem revival. You will be her boyfriend, or you will be nothing.
Confront brings to mind a fight, which could have her running straight towards him (depending on what kind of girl she is).0