Me and her dated for 2 years, it was just our two year anniversary and her bday. we got into a fight and the fight led to us taking a break because we have been fighting to much lately. We were two weeks into our break and she says that she needs to call it quits. I asked why and she told me that she loves me, cares about me but has decided she just doesn’t want to be in a relationship anymore. She wants to do the single things but she stressed to me that its not about dating she just needs to be single because she has never really been alone for years now and she just wants to hang with the girls etc...She says that as much as I hate her for doing this she really needs to do this… She recently lost her job which has caused a lot of stress in our relationship. Also she hates herself right now because she feels ugly and she is unhappy and she has been not happy for awhile.. She told me she just needs to live a little without “being with someone” and she knows I hate her for this but she loved all the time she spent with me and she said she knows she may never find anyone as good as I am and if that’s true then she has accepted that but she says she really needs to just be single for now. She just needs this change. What do I do in this situation, its been a week with no contact, what else can I do?, your thoughts or similar experiences are appreciated. Thank you
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I understand how upset you must feel, but she has asked not just for a break but for something more permanent. She may feel she is not ready for a long term committed relationship and needs to have fun, go out with the girls etc and not have anyone to answer too. She said she won't be dating. Dating soon after a relationship is ended, is going on a rebound. They do not work. She will perhaps date again, but she may have said she wasn't going to, to spare your feelings. She says she may never find anyone as good as you, yet she leaves you, which in itself is contradictory.
You are single as well and you should go out and have fun with your friends, etc. She is not contacting you cos she is getting on with her life and you should do the same. You may have been in a serious relationship and felt all those similarities you both had. It is hard to let go of these things. If she comes back and says she wants to talk etc, you may have moved on more than she and found someone else. Or the opposite could happen.
She gave you no indication of how long she wants to break for. You cannot wait forever, it is unfair of her to expect you to do so.
Go out and have fun. Join some groups or clubs in a hobby that you like to do. Learn a new language, write or paint...etc...there is sooooooo much you can do and how knows what doors it may open up for you.