A guy I been having a booty call with for 2 years off and on has said something really messed up tonight. I asked him if he wasn't with his girlfriend, would we have been together? The reason I asked him this is because I really wish we did more than sex and I like his personality so much although we rarely see each other, I do enjoy his company and can see myself with him so I was just wondering if we would have ever been if she wasn't there to begin with. Then he said he didn't understand why I asked him that and that that is something a prostitute would say to there client but since I'm not one, he doesn't understand why I asked him that. WTF? Do you understand what he is saying guys? BC I may have took him as comparing me to a whore. Can't be a whore if I am sleeping with him only. he's is just back up when I am single. I like him so yeah I'm going to wonder if we could have ever been. how is that something a prostitute would say? makes me realize that maybe he does not really value me at all so I told him to leave. Should I end it?
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1. You have been a booty call for 2 years and haven't been made girlfriend yet? You are never going to be his girlfriend. If he wanted to be with you he would have by now. He just sees you as someone who is good enough to have sex with but not a girl he would want to date. This is your fault because had you had higher standards about how you allow men to treat you and what you will put up with, you wouldn't be in this situation at all.
2. You have not only been a booty call for 2 years, but you are sleeping with a guy that has a girlfriend. It would be one thing if he lied to you and hid his girlfriend and you didn't know about her, but you do. No man respects a woman who doesn't respect herself. If he knows you will lower yourself to be a glorified come bucket for a guy who is actually dating another woman, why would he want to upgrade you to girlfriend status? In his eyes you are just something to do. I have a lot of male friends and I work with a bunch of guys on my shift, I hear how they talk about girls like you and it's not pleasant at all. While you are getting attached to him and growing addicted to the time you spend together, he is able to seperate his emotions from sex and pretty much sees you as a tool to be used. Just like when one is thirsty, they drink a glass of water. And when one needs to use a bathroom, they use a toilet. When one is horny and wants quick sex without emotional attachment, they use a booty call. Is that how you really want to be treated?
3. If you are with a man and all you do is have sex. That means all he wants to do with you is have sex with you. Have you ever noticed that there are some women who can get men to fall in love with them before they even have sex at all? It's because there was something else there. You can emotionally bond with a guy and develop feelings for each other without going to the bedroom, don't let anyone tell you any different. If all you do is have sex then that's all he's going to see you as. A sex partner.
4. He basically equated you to a prostitute. Read back on my lists #1-3, are you really surprised now that he would say this? You may not be a promiscuous whore, but this man has noted that you lack respect for yourself and are willing to do anything for his approval even when he has obvious contempt for you and sees you as only good for the bedroom. So no, you are not technically a "whore" but can you see why he would degrade you and see you in a degrading way? You aren't exactly carrying yourself as well as you should.
Liking a man is fine, but you have to love yourself more than you like him. Yes you should end it, and do some soul searching for awhile before you get into another "relationship" again. I think you could do a lot better than the situation you're settling for and you don't need to put yourself through all of that again. Next time, establish a bond and get a relationship with a SINGLE GUY before you put out and invest your feelings into someone who doesn't care.0
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