This is hands down the best and most well thought out response so far!!
a lot of experience trying to be friends post breakup lol.
I never looked at it in that way. That actually frustrates too, however, some people are just better off as friends. Thank you so much for your detailed response! It's great to see someone really give their input rather than a yes or no answer.
Oh, and having 0 romantic/sexual attraction also helps.
No, that's not true. Just because some feel that they have no reason to talk with someone they used to have a romantic relationship with doesn't mean they'll have trouble with other friendships/relationships
@Myquietsoul that wasn't what I was saying at all. You've misunderstood.
Oh, my fault. I thought you meant with other people
@Myquietsoul No, with the ex.
Oh. I gotcha
Thanks for the MHO :)
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Surprisingly when I was with my ex everything was fine! We stayed so close but occasionally (and I seriously mean once in a blue moon) we’d have sex, but rarely through the 4 years of us broken up. But he cut me off to move on... and said I was a distraction 😂 so I can understand that because it’s definitely awkward now!
That would mean you would still have feelings. What if you’ve moved on? Would you be able to be friends or still no?
Well she was my girlfriend for seven and a half years and she lived with me for two and a half years out of that so obviously I still had big feelings for her. It took me about three years to get over her so there was no way it would ever work out
I’m glad you were able to move on as I know it can be really hard. What helped you move on?
Thank you I appreciate that but it was very difficult for me. What helped me move on was our phone calls once in a blue moon and emails Time Heals all wounds
That’s what I’m going through right now. My ex of 4 years decided to cut complete contact to help him move on. I was able to move on quickly because I found someone who made me feel worthy. However, I thought that I was over him but now that we don’t speak I find myself thinking of old times. It’s hard but we all get through this❤️
But the sad thing was that she broke my spirit that I'll never work so hard on another female as I worked on her ever again and I never will take another female seriously again because I broke my back for her and the way it finished off and losing my loved one that was a total backbreaker for good her moving out 6 months later after losing my loved one
I know it may seems like you won’t be able to find someone to replace that because I had that problem with my ex. He set a high standard and I would compare every person that I dated to him. It was awful. It was until my best guy friend showed me support while I sobbed around about my ex. You will find someone WAY BETTER. I can promise you that because she didn’t love you the way you needed to be loved and when you find someone that treats you better than you think you deserve, you won’t even think twice about her.
Aww I'm sorry to hear that. I would imagine finding somebody new would help out I guess, but in the long run it really doesn't help I hope that you can recover from your old feelings that you had with him. By the way thanks for your Follow I appreciate it 😀
Thanks but she actually did live with me and we traveled all around the world. That's kind of hard to replace connections like that
You’ll never find someone to replace them. Nor will you ever find someone that will take away what you experienced with that person. It’s a love that will always be there. But that doesn’t mean that it was the best love and the last. Have you ever tried to rekindle with her?
No she pissed me off at the end and she forgot my birthday one year even though she moved out already and she kind of cut things off and she brought up guys that she was going out with and she just really made me angry. She use to hate Miami Florida and now she started going out to clubs whitch she hated as well and now she's enjoying that and she told me that I like Miami Florida, talking to me like she's a little Heathen which really upset me after all the good things I did for her and the upbeat couragement I gave her and I showered her with diamonds and fancy trips and cruise's paying for her empty apartment while she lived with me. I was really hurting and it was killing me her little Heathen attitude. Even though she wasn't sleeping around. That's it Its been so long now I don't want to fool with this girl anymore we had our time together. All the years I've known her she was always such a depressed person and complained and nagged like life was coming to an end for her
At least your able to see her for what she is! Many people can’t do that!
She just nagged and complained and she made me feel so sorry for her, she acted like the innocent pure little queen that had such a hard life and I was her knight and shining armor. I broke my back trying to please her and make her happy and give her great encouragement, then at the end she pulled a stunt on me like that. Acting like a little Heathen even though she already moved out and she said we can still be friends and then she keeps bringing up guys and going out to clubs after losing my loved one and she just does a total change around even though she was there to support me and my loved one. Now you know where I'm coming from do I sound like a guy that's datable to you? You can see my back is broken
I think it’s still hard on you as I would expect it to be. I can’t imagine what you’ve gone through and how hurt she made you feel. I would be so angry and hurt by her selfish actions but I would try not to let her have that much control over me.
Well it's my own fault during my struggles with her I pushed and pursued and pushed and worked real hard to get her back into the ball game with me. I tried and I tried like she was the last hoorah of my life that's how hard I tried to make things work out. I pushed her hard so we wouldn't break up, It was like a marriage. Don't get me wrong we had wonderful beautiful times together and I brought her to a lot of parties and introduced her to all of my family and friends, I brought her to all the Christmas parties and put her in very high class environment knowing that she came from nothing, she's a Cuban white skinned girl that is very Americanized and college educated. I gave her every ounce of energy I had and then some constantly always coming up with clever ideas to make her happy, so much energy I poured into her it was unbelievable. I treated her like a princess she was my diamond in the rough.
I put her through college and I was always encouraging her, she lived with me in my beautiful home. And one day it all ends and this is the thanks I get it? It blows my mind makes me think just enjoy the moment that anybody else out there It just won't happen. Your True Blood is your real blood your true family that's all that matters. You can see that I've lost my desire to try again with females of the world. I thank you so much for your time I bet you weren't expecting this but thank you it has helped me to rant even though it's a little bit to me
I so wasted my time coming in here last night and you got me opening up a whole bunch of long winded details, you acted like a friend the whole time and at the end you left me hanging. That's why I don't date because of girls like you the way they act. You didn't even finish up by saying thank you or you're welcome or goodbye after I thanked you for your time. Did you even read everything I said the last two long post? Basically it's all for you this question isn't it? Another selfish girl. You just continue to post on other answers without finishing up with me first way after my last post, then today you tell another user that hands down he has the best response after I put hours into this. Just a total waste of my time. I don't like your pose away in your picture that's to much you know what an attention seeker in a bad way. Besides in other questions you talk to sexual on here with other people. I had to remove you from my Follow list, you don't deserve to be on it.
I'm going to have to put you in time out for a while
if you want to discuss things I am always open to helping as many people as I can. I am not on this website every single day so I never got a chance to reply. The problem with what happened in your relationship seems to be that she might have felt suffocated. This was my issue when I was with one of my exes. I was constantly pushing them because I wanted to see him grow and I wanted him to be the best that he could be. I loved him and I can tell that you truly loved her. The problem is that, from what you say, she didn't seem ready for a committed relationship. Some people can have everything that they want in a relationship and still not be happy. There is that possibility that she took everything for granted and didn't realize what she had.
To rip you a new asshole or to not rip you one? Tough question. Let's get something straight. You do not know me nor would I let you have the opportunity to get to know me. I think I can be straight up as to why she ended it with you. You don't seem to take responsibility for anything in your relationship. Your posts, as well as your responses, are all about you. Maybe as much as you were helping her out you were also not being supportive of the things she wanted. I can also tell that you probably gave her shit for everything considering your lashed out behavior. You need patience (insulting me because I didn't answer you) and you need to reevaluate your relationships with people. If you dont like how I pose in a picture, then that's completely fine. I'm completely satisfied with myself. :) THANK YOU. YOU'RE WELCOME. GOODBYE
I was very supportive and and did care about her I put her first before me. I don't think I pushed her because It was a long distance relationship over the phone because she lives on the other side of Florida and then she end up moving in with me for 2 and 1/2 years later and it's not my fault it ended I never even told you how it ended and why it ended. Don't get angry and rant on me because you're mad and put the blame on me. When we were getting along you acted like it was her fault now you're pushing me like I'm the problem which I'm not just because you're angry at me. The fact is I stand behind what I say about you. I spent way to much time on here with you and to many hours for you to walk away without saying goodbye or thank you for posting. You left me hanging but yet you kept posting on other people's threads. I see you as selfish and this thread being about you. You kept pushing me and pushing me about my relationship when I wasn't even going to get into anything here.
You don't need to threaten me about ripping me a new a****** I'm a civilized man I don't need to lower myself in the war of words with you. I was just upset and had to say what I had to say. I wish you the best of luck in your life
Ok so you are able to verbally attack me but if I make comments about you that’s completely fine. Absolutely not. I never changed my opinion or standpoint on your case. I just realized once you got pissed at me that you lashed out showing me that’s probably how you handled your relationship
That's not how it is. I'm going through a lot of problems right now in my life including health problems, I just got back from the eye doctor today and got a big scare and I'm very sensitive right now. I'm not looking for any trouble. If you're interested in still talking to me let's keep it friendly and up beat. You already told me you don't want to get to know me so I understand where you're coming from
Wow you're so much worse than I thought you were. Basically you're just a cold hearted self absorbed non caring person. What kind of a girl walks away from man that needs help that suffered bad news from the eye doctor and that has great fear and you walk away not say nothing because you're angry over a few little words instead of being the big girl and Stay Awhile while this is not good at settle this out that you're going to be okay man you just walk away and disappear into Oblivion
Disregard these words here. I'm on my voice command and it was voice command error and it got sent by accident. and Stay Awhile while this is not good at settle this out that you're going to be okay man
So basically you are what I thought you were, but even worse. The kind of person you are disgust me. You have been on this site so you can't make any excuses that you weren't on. This time I'm done with you and I don't want to be socializing with you anymore. Unless you come back here one day and change your ways 100%. I will be okay my eyes and I will get back into the swing of of things very quickly cuz I am a former athlete and I'm coming back. I'm a hard worker and I'm in the gym working out
Thank you for the response and compliment by the way! I think for many couples the sexual chemistry is what really makes it difficult to be friends. Think about it, they know everything about your body and what “gets you going.” this can make it very difficult but if that tension is gone, I think it’s possible.
Sounds like you're speaking from experience The maturity of the people involved and how the relationship ended will also be factorsStaying friends can also delay being able to get over someone
I think the best answer is that everyone’s situation is different. Some might deem it necessary to cut ties while others can move on with them in your life.
Losing a girl that looks like you would be a hard pill to swallowI'd have to take the immature approach and say goodbye for good, just for my own sanity lol
That opinion is bullshit.
@Annie_Mosity who knows maybe it didn’t work out with him and his ex. I definitely think it’s possible!
@itslizx3 that's him, not everyone.
@Annie_Mosity ok Grandma
Dude... So weak. You want another go?
Have any of your exes started dating other people? If so, was it awkward for you or did you move on at that point?
Ye they have and I'm fine with it... its only awkward if you make it awkward
I agree that it varies from situation to situation! Thank you for your response!
How is that going for you two? Do you still have feelings for her?
it's going great. no i don't have feelings for her. we dated over a decade ago. i'm married and she has been with someone for about 6 years
So you're example is proof that it's possible!
of my 5 relationships prior to my wife i am friends with one ex, good acquaintances with another. it really depends on if a platonic friendship existed prior to or developed during the relationship and then a major factor becomes how the relationship ends which determines if ex's can be friends
Answers that we’ll never have an answer to! 😂
That’s very true!
What’s your reasoning?
Why do you say that?
They dumped me, that's the first heart ache. They disrespected me by dumping me thats the second heart ache so no no... Plus if I stay any longer with her I would be tempted to have sex. So no no for that as well!
I can’t understand that as nobody likes to get dumped. Your way better off anyway!
No, he didn't cheat. He just didn't see how a friendship could work if he was to start dating again.
Oh i see... srry my bad : )