Now these things are coming back to hurt me and fill my mind with negative thoughts making me lose feelings
so, whenever I upset him I ALWAYS apologized for what I've said/how I've acted and they were never anything less than sincere. But when he does something that hurts me and I TELL him he makes excuses. (Example: he thought I was the one who lost one of his things and yelled at me (not too loud but still) in front of everyone. I told him about it but he said he was just being firm with me).
Another time he wouldn't tell me the password to one of this things (that is shared between a few colleagues) although I let him in on everything. Again I expressed my feelings and nothing :,(.
anyway I tried to put these on the side and continue to love him but one morning I just woke up and said I don't deserve to be treated like this (I'm a smart, educated and an attractive woman, I try to be a positive asset in people's life, I put others before myself, and I can be vulnerable and show my softer side to a man I'm in love with).
Still, I do not want to get over this person he has some positive qualities. I just want to know HOW I can get over it?
Most Helpful Guy
Sounds to me like a standar case of Stockholm syndrome you have going there. Seen many like the same even some i used to date, they are unwilling to shut the door to the harmful amd carry on. Do not be that chick who does that.
Most Helpful Girl
Baby girl look here, LOVE Is just a word. What truly matters is the connection... And what you would do or give up to keep that connection that you believe defines the word love; but that's a two way street. Those who give up on what's important lose everything... Or focus on just themselves end up hurting another. Let's put it real simple. If you take milk out of the fridge smell it and figure out it's bad. You don't put it back hoping it gets better.. you throw that shit out and get new milk. It's YOUR relationship... YOUR happiness... YOUR life. Take control.