My girlfriend broke up with me about 6 weeks ago because she said she was depressed and she wanted to "work on herself". It took her a while to even take it off of Facebook because she said she was confused about her feelings. She said she wants to be alone, but I keep reading thats not good for people who are depressed. Since the break up I've seen her a couple times (talked to her in person), but for the past 4 weeks there's been NO contact whatsoever. I let her know countless times I'm there for her if she needs anything and have even sent her a couple messages reminding her that, but like I said our contact has died down to nothing at all within the past 4 weeks. We are still FB friends and I see her online, so I know she's getting my messages. She is still all I think about and I wish I told her I loved her more when we were together, but at the same time a part of me wants to respect what she wants and leave her alone. Problem is, I saw a future with her. Will she ever come back? What do I do? I keep hearing to "focus on myself" but literally everyday she's all I can think about. Did I do something wrong and she's using depression as an out? I even see she likes posts/memes on Facebook saying things like how "fun it is being single", and "where is my prince charming when you need him?", which confuses the hell outta me and it hurts, a lot. I don't know if I'm being too paranoid or even if I'm depressed myself, but this whole thing is eating me alive.
PLEASE HELP! My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me because she is depressed, will she come back? Or is it something more?
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I am really sad you are in such situation... If she really is depressed she needs help and realizing that is the first step. I know what it is like and you always think you need a little break from everything but the truth is it never ends if you don't do anything about it and a thing called a break is the time when you are wasting your time and feeling useless, which makes you even more depressed... my quite strong psyche is helping a lot but would mean nothing if there was no person who really cares about me, because loneliness is the factor why we are usually depressed as humans... There also is a possibility she is cheating on you as you have mentioned, which would be simply disgusting but if you want to find out, texting is not the best way... Meeting face to face is a moment of truth. She may avoid meeting, so surprise her if you know when she's home or somewhere else you can meet her. Tell hell all your worries, be completely honest and OBSERVE her reaction. That's the key. You can feel if someone's lying and while meeting someone face to face there is no way out.1
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Her depression is her problem, it's not your fault or responsibility to fix it or take the blame. Give her space but move on with your life, your life isn't on hold until she gets better and even if she does, what if she moved on from you? Don't obsess about her and don't be afraid if your future does not involve her, your future does not lie with her. Even if she liking memes, so what, it is a bit sketchy so maybe cut ties with her for being ironic? But I'm also ironic myself so I can relate, I have a hopeless romantic side but I'm mostly against marriage because I think it's difficult as climbing mt Everest lol. You are pretty paranoid, relax and move on or else you feeding into the craziness.0
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