Sounds like my ex geez guys are all alike
@evelyn26 Yeah sad thing is he's a super nice guy and I really think we could have an awesome future together but I don't think he's relationship material because he's immature and won't accept responsibility for his actions. Really sucks. And he sucks in bed too so that would have to be fixed lol
Omg girl is this the same guy? He thinks he has no issues and sucks in bed too! He shouldn’t because he’s had many gfs and he’s selfish in bed. We need better guys.
@evelyn26 For real, why did we stick with them for so long? 😅 Hopefully next time we'll get two guys with all the same qualities except they'll be POSITIVE traits lol
I hope so. Good luck girl
ahh so its because he can give to you
No. I've already tried dating a rich snob lol it didn't work out. He thought all problems could be fixed by money. I thought all problems could be fixed by communication. He thought he could "buy" a relationship with me, and since I'm the type of person to get to know someone first before getting into anything serious, that didn't last long. My first ex was the only ex who wasn't a dick, hasn't became a drug addict, wasn't abusive and/or doesn't act like a stuck up brat. Right now he seems content in life. I'm happy for him, but I picked him because he's the only one who wasn't a pos.
so if someone was decent but was doing ok? not well
There's a difference between doing okay and thinking money is the answer to everything. You can have a successful life and still value true aspects of a relationship. Thinking you can wave some money around to get what you want is not the type of person I'm interested in. The only reason I entertained the thought of dating that one guy is because he was supposedly my best friend for a few years. And he wouldn't leave me alone about it.
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So you think once things sour, there's no starting over?
There's definitely no such thing as "starting over", which is what makes it so hard. It's about staying together and putting aside resentment and bad experiences and moving forward as a couple. At some point, you have to ask yourself "why am I with this person after their past behavior has made them out to be the kind of person with whom I don't want a relationship?". I do believe in giving people more and more chances; but after the damage of a break up occurs there's typically a lot of animosity between partners, and that only leads to a more permanent separation if they get back together. Even so, I'm not the kind of person who won't try to fix a relationship, if love still exists.
What do you think makes someone to decide to finally give up and not give it another go?
I don't think there's a formula or set of events that cause it - it's subjective to each person's feelings and walk of life. It comes down to how much hurt each person is willing to put up with, forgive, and work through. I know it's weird to make it out to be a pros and cons list; but that's how I see it. Each person who's ever broken up with someone reached their own personal point of seeing more cons than pros, and that's why they broke it off. If, after time, the one who did the breaking up thinks about the ex and getting back together with them, they have to be able to put all the bad behind them - the same bad that ended the relationship the first time, and move forward. That's the hard part, forgiving someone who gave you reason to end a relationship, all the while working with them to make it "work", with all those sucky memories. It's really easy for people to give up trying to fix a relationship when surrounded by all that negativity.
Thanks man, that is super insightful. Going through a bit of a rough breakup and this has helped me make a bit of sense of it
I'm happy it helped, and am very sorry that it's a tough break up. My biggest piece of advice is to take some time apart, cool off, and if/when you two do start to talk things through, be as kind, patient, direct and honest as you can. I know that's hard because talking about emotional stuff is really draining, especially if one of you is still hurting; but that's all you can do. And if they start lashing out or a fight starts to escalate, that just means you both need to take more time apart to set your heads straight so you can be diplomatic with each other.Sadly, sometimes the "more time" part can be indefinite. Just be your best you when you talk to them, and I sincerely hope that things work out for the best for both of you.
Mind if I message you?
Not at all, go for it.
@rebekahj391 I just got the the part where I have to be LEVEL TWO! to send messages... Once I figure out how to do that, I will message you.
@ Sparkzs great advice. In the same boat as rebekahj391 I'm gonna follow you. Answer my question?
@evelyn26 Sorry to hear you're in a similar situation. I'm not quite level 2 yet (which is a thing I did not expect to type when I woke up this morning), and as such I can't do private messages just yet; but absolutely!
Lol answer more questions and you'll get there faster.
age 101 omg gold man
How bout a rubber dick?
Sounds like my ex except he is a guy and 23 years old.
Pretty bad huh?
Together 15 years married for 9 she and found out she had 3 affairs