I'm happy in my current relationship and in many ways it is better than the one I had with my ex. However I feel that my ex was the first true love of my life and sometimes I feel depressed that my old relationship is gone and feel sentimental over it. How do I handle this?
Most Helpful Guy
Earlier this year I became deeply sentimental about a girl I had a relationship with that ended 16 years ago. I dated her from 1997 to 2001. She was one of my first ever loves, and for some reason, out of the blue, I suddenly felt an extremely strong, overpowering urge to talk to her and be near her once again. I hadn't talked to her since 2001, and I didn't even know if she was alive or dead. But I finally tracked her down and found her on facebook, and started talking to her there. Talking to her made me remember why I broke up with her in the first place - she's a total cunt, and has a crude, mean spirited personality and sense of humor. I could see glimpses of the girl I fell in love with, as she can be simultaneously sweet, feminine, and crude/mean spirited all at the same time, but I realized from talking to her this year that i dodged a bullet by not talking to her for so long.
Odds are, your ex is your ex for a good reason. You need to remember that. Nostalgia can make us look at the past through rose colored glasses, and make us remember only the good parts while glossing over the bad parts in our minds. I don't really recommend getting back in touch with your ex, as that could make your longing for him even stronger, but at the same time it also might make you realize why your relationship ended in the first place, and why it's a good thing that it ended.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
Did you date the ex for longer than the new boyfriend? I'm guessing the longer you stick with him, the more those old memories will be replaced by those with your new man. I think logically you know this new person is great for you but you still have some feelings for the ex, maybe unresolved issues or a simple romantic longing for your first love to work out?1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE