Most Helpful Guy
I broke up with a woman who I dated for 2 years. I still love her. I am not doing anything to win her back.
We broke up because she did not value me as a partner in the way that I valued her. After two years, she did not love me. She wanted me to be her standby boyfriend, available when she wanted me and out of sight when she had other things to do. Outside of that enormous and insurmountable problem, we were very good for each other.
If I won her back, she still wouldn't love me. Before long, she again would be treating me like a standby boyfriend. I think I deserve someone who treats me better than that, so I will not try to win her back. Since the break up, I have seen her a few times on a platonic basis, but I have started dating other women. If she decides that she wants to treat me better, if she realizes that she loves me, she knows how to contact me. . . but I don't think that will ever happen, so I am moving forward, because the other option is moving backwards.8
Most Helpful Girl
If I have broken up with someone then that means something has happened that was a deal breaker or something in the relationship was negatively affecting me that can't be fixed. As great as love is, sometimes it's not enough to make a relationship work.
Sometimes there are factors at play beyond your control. That may be because they cheated, or they have a destructive habit that is affecting you, or they want different things out of life than you do, etc. So even though you may love that person, not all issues can be solved from that. That's just reality, unfortunately.1