Last night my boyfriend and I broke up, he said that I couldn’t provide the support he needed to get through his parents divorce and that he needed to do it alone. When I asked him what kind of support he needed he didn’t answer. His best friend said that I should just fall back and let him miss me but I hate him so much I’m not sure I even want him back.
Most Helpful Guy
I can't speak for your ex, but I personally had no interest in simply keeping my ex around for convenience or as a friends with benefits.
I broke up with my ex earlier this year, due to conflicts of perspective and a lack of respect. The relationship had soured, however, we came into the relationship as best friends. I've traveled the world with her, treated her family like my own, and this is the only ex that my mom was truly fond of. We had gone though so much together, and there was a chemistry that was too amazing to throw away, so i advocating for remaining friends.
From Feb-May, it was an awkward transition period, and there were points were each of us felt foolish af. We had a long convo about setting boundaries and expectations. Since i didn't want any confusion, the top items were no sex or intimacy! NOTHING confuses a relationship more than adding in sex and intimacy. We also agreed to giving each other space.
After the beak in period, we were finally able to grow with each other, in ways that the relationship prevented us from doing. Things aren't perfect, but we still travel together, we support each other emotionally and spiritually, and we keep each other in check.
I'm not sure about your ex's maturity, so I'm only sharing my story as an example that a friendship can be salvaged. If your ex comes off as someone who doesn't stick to his convictions, then I wouldn't recommend entertaining his bs.1
Most Helpful Girl
I've experienced something similar. my ex boyfriend broke up with me because his parents were constantly arguing. they weren't divorcing but they were just constantly arguing. he said he'd still like to be friends but he thought i couldn't help him the way he wanted me to (kinda the same situation you're in). when my one friend who was a really good friend of my ex boyfriend heard about it, she told me to just pretend as if i never dated him so i wouldn't be so ticked off, wouldn't be dwelling on it, and wouldn't constantly think about it. i kinda did work, but not 100% because it was a break up of a relationship that was 3 years long
also, i'd tell you that you should do what his friend is saying. stay back and let him miss you. if he wants to be with you, he'll make an effort to come back to you. if he doesn't want to be with you, he won't make an effort of a good one to be with you1