I was overhearing a conversation on the train today, and this topic came up. Apparently one of the two girls talking to each, said that she had cheated on her boyfriend (at the time), who is now her husband, and the father of her child.
She said that he forgave her about her transgressions, but still brings it up every now and again, when something that would be remotely related to fidelity (or lack thereof) came up. Is that fair to bring up the past, if you've forgiven someone?
Also, she said that if he were ever to cheat on her, she would not think twice about leaving. To me that's a double standard, but do you (the person that was initially cheated on) give up that right when you "forgive" your partner, or do you effectively have a "get out of jail free card"?
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1. She would leave him right away if he cheated because it's an easy out, she clearly didn't care before about him, and doesn't now. I don't think love is something you "Grow" into. It's something that is there from the minute you say it for the first time, and that strength exists until you part. But then there's her second problem.
2. She says he forgave her, well clearly that's a lie. Because if he forgave her, then he would never think about it, or bring it up; even if just occasional. Love is patient. Love is unconditional. Even if my husband was a mass-murderer or did something terrible, I would still love him, I would still stand by his side. He's my partner for life. I don't believe in divorce, but I also don't believe that once you've cheated on someone, they should marry you, and devote their life, when you clearly can't commit yours.
3. I am assuming she didn't tell him about the affair until after they were married also, which breaks the WHOLE POINT of marriage, to be completely honest, prior, and during the marriage. or what is the point? If we are all a bunch of liars, then of course we are going to divorce.
4. VERY good topic here cookie monster cupcake! Really opens a door of thought for me anyways.2