My boyfriend dumped me 6 months ago - but we have had regular contact, he was contacting me loads in the first month - but then now we are contacting say once a month or so. a few weeks back he rung me, it was a Monday night, it was unexpected. We hadn't spoke to each other on the phone for at least 3 months. I didn't wanna get myself upset by talking to him so I politely text him and said I didn't wanna get myself upset. he replied 'no worries, just calling to see how you were'. Now, if he had text me back and said 'I WANT YOU BACK'! I would of spoken to him. but I thought, if you aren't ringing to ask for me back then I would rather spare my emotions and not speak to you at all. You see? That was the way I was thinking.
Guys, what I wanna know is, would you call an ex girlfriend 'just for a chat'. do you think that he called for a reason but didn't want to say outright what it was? it was just a bit unexpected that's all. Obviously I want him back and I wish I had spoken to him
Update: well, that was three weeks ago now and this lunchtime I summoned up the courage and rung him. conversation went well...we spoke like we used too...now what do I do? Just leave it?
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I am in contact with my ex boyfriend, he dumped me, but we still communicate every day. He has rung me and I have talked with him. I do not read anything into what or why he is ringing me other then being friendly and caring.
I expect that is what your ex was doing, just being friendly and caring. You perhaps are reading too much into it. Sometimes, one can get ahead of oneself and think, hey he wants me back, when in fact the opposite is true.
You need to slow your thinking down about this, or you could end up with hurt and confused feelings again. You want him back, he doesn't know it. It has been a while for you both. Perhaps why not arrange to meet up, keep it informal, and during the day time, perhaps for lunch. You could ask him and say it would be fun, oh don't say I want to talk to you , as that can scare a guy right off, just say, how about meeting up sometime, it would be nice and it would be fun too. But make sure you don't get carried away with meeting him and end up as a friend with benefits, you don't want that.
Just see what he says, with that suggestion and take it from there, if he says no, then the time is not right, just accept it and say then maybe another time. But let him decide.0